Can't stop obsessing about miscarriage

[Pegase]

Have had three relatively early miscarriages ( < 7 weeks) and can't stop worrying that current pregnancy is going to go the same way. I am 8+6, had an early scan at 6+4 that looked ok - embryo had a heart beat though a little small for dates.

Have booked a private scan for 10 weeks and then have 12 week scan just before 13 weeks.

Am terrified of having MMC and not knowing about it. Have had to tell a couple of people at work as morning sickness pretty bad as well. Also terrified of finding an anomaly at 12 or 20 weeks.

How did anyone else in the same situation cope with these early weeks?

Hi.

Sorry to hear of your miscarriages. We had a miscarriage, then got pregnant 3 months later. The first 12 weeks were hell. We mist of had 3 or 4 private scans so I could be reassured that everything was fine. However, my symptoms were much worse than the former pregnancy so I knew deep down that baby was ok. I stopped worrying once I could feel movement from about 17 weeks. We now have a beautiful 11 week old baby girl.

I feel your anxiety. Worrying will dampen the experience but I totally get why you would worry. Good luck x

Hi @Pegase I feel your pain. I've had two early miscarriages in the last 14 months and it's terrifying. I'm not yet five weeks with this one, but I plan to get a private scan at about 8 weeks.

On Tommy's the baby charity website, they mention some research which says that for women who have recurrent miscarriages, if a heartbeat is seen after 8 weeks, there is a 98% chance of that pregnancy continuing. Quote from their website below:

•	One research study of more than 300 women with a history of recurrent miscarriage showed that those who saw a heartbeat at 6 weeks of pregnancy had a 78% chance of the pregnancy continuing.  It also showed that seeing a heartbeat at 8 weeks increased the chance of a continuing pregnancy to 98% and at 10 weeks that went up to 99.4%.

I also like looking at this every day and seeing the % chance of pregnancy continuing going up!

datayze.com/miscarriage-chart.php

Totally understandable.

I'd 2 mc before dd and with dd I didn't even begin to "relax" until we hit viability stage around 24 weeks and even then not completely.

In all honesty I didn't really start to relax until we were both home.

It's tough, and very normal for those who've had difficulties be that conceiving at all through to difficulties at birth. Certainly all my friends with conception/pregnancy issues have been the same.

So I would say accept that it's normal for you to feel this way, but as much as possible don't let it spoil your enjoyment of being pregnant. Hard I know.,

Thank you all. @EnglishRain that statistic is really helpful; I hadn't seen that before.

Am 10 weeks tomorrow and had a private scan yesterday that looks fine so just trying to make it to the 12 week scan now.

And hanging on to my dire morning sickness as a positive sign!