30 weeks pregnant. How much sex did you have?

[Courtney555]

Pretty much that really.

DH has commented (not seriously, before people go off on one) that he can't wait for the babies (it's twins) to be here because he's so neglected.

I know he's not actually feeling neglected. But the last time we attempted maybe a couple of weeks ago, it was all very "watch the bump"..."no, I can't bend"..."that's too uncomfortable, I'm to heavy to hold myself"

(Sorry if TMI)

What did the rest of you do at this stage? Just accept it's not really going to happen while you're like a beach ball? Or are you all managing pretty much fine?

I still feel like I have a sex drive, so it's not that. It just seems a waste of time to initiate anything when it's all so impossible logistically.

Any insights gratefully received!

With my first I didn't have much sex in pregnancy (we didn't have that great a sex life anyway). Different partner with my second and we had loads of sex in second and third trimesters until he told me he was put off by feeling the baby moving during sex. I was about 35 weeks at that point.

We didn't have sex in a variety of positions though, as it's not really comfortable as you said. I think it was mainly "spooning" types of positions.

Ah sorry just noticed the twin part. I would imagine that your 30 weeks bump is bigger than mine would've been!

There are positions that are easier to do towards the end of pregnancy such as side lying etc. If all else fails, could you try satisfying each other without full intercourse?

I am 32 weeks and we are still managing some form of sex twice a week, though that will probably slow to once a week soon.

We loved the spooning position! Was so much easier and the bump didn't get in the way at all

My sex drive was high throughout my pregnancy so there was lots of sex but everyone is different so don’t be too hard on yourself. I was able to have sex right up to 42 weeks but the positions got more limited.

@firesong Yes! We both get put off with them moving and poking out of them bump too.

It's really a mood killer when you're clutching your bump mid session because it's started twitching about.

Not very much now! But we’ve talked about it quite openly and try to make the effort occasionally...though it’s not the most sexy when it happens, it helps us feel closer.

For us the weird part is the baby moving!

For some reason as soon as my partner touches me down there! The baby hipes up and starts having a party in my stomach! Which can be very off putting! However we have learnt to ignore as I've read orgasms are actually very good for the baby (strange I know) so we either wait for her to calm down or if she's not too bad we just carry on regardless I'm 35 weeks and this week we have gone from everyday to every couple or few days as I feel a bit swollen down there after sex so like a day off in between haha! Mostly we do spooning in bed it's a very good way and belly is out of way no matter of size! And another we like is me on top with him sat up on settee! My tummy isn't that big it still bounces in between us but still we manage, I should imagine with twins thou hun it's very hard!

This is us atm we're still maybe having it once a week or twice at a push but it's uncomfortable now, I cannot lay on my back, it hurts on my side and I feel like a beached whale it's actually a little bit off putting now and plus my bits feel so swollen after it's just not worth it. I'm getting to the point of just sorting myself out because I cannot be arsed with the palava

One thing that did help was laying on top of a pillow almost like a cushion for the bump but I haven't tried it since so it may hurt now

not often husband kept asking me if baby was alright like every minuet it was a mood killer 😂
Baby stayed remarkably still If we did though

the first trimester and a half I felt too rubbish ...

Im 30 weeks tomorrow and although the thoughts are there i just literally cant be botherd and neither can dh half the time.i would say the whole pregnancy i could probally count on one hand how many times we have dtd. As others have said very off putting when baby is wriggling around. My bump is massive too and just turning over in bed is like trying to manuover a crane so sex is deffinately not as passionate as it should be lol x

29 weeks now and we've been pretty active up to this point but on a sex ban now because of placenta position and slightly gutted!

Oh and positions, still on my back sometimes with a pillow under my bum, DP is a bit more up on his knees. Spooning (but I don't find this that comfortable) or all fours is probably the easiest - either fully on the bed or standing/leaning over.

I'm 32 weeks with twins
Currently carrying around 9.5lb of baby. I totally get you.

Last weekend we settled for a bit of mutual satisfaction, none penetrative. Had sex the week before that. Had nine since.

In top is easier as I'm feeling really claustrophobic lately and I can be more mindful of bump.

With second DD none.

I’m that he thinks you will have the time and be more interested with tiny babies.

Also tbf at this point I virtually constantly ache between my legs, so the thought of penetrative sex outweighs what is actually a good sex drive. I'm conscious I've 4 weeks of pregnancy left and then there will be none for at least 6 weeks!!

We were having sex fairly regularly up until about 26 ish weeks (32 weeks now) when dh started feeling the baby move! I think it just feels a bit odd for both of us. We've done once or twice since but have done mostly foreplay etc instead recently. Everyone is different so just whatever works for you guys. We have this recurring joke where we say 'ah well, once baby is here, things will be easier' 😂

Zero with both. Both low lying placenta's and 1st was very heavy bleeds all the way through.

My libido goes on holiday during pregnancy. I'm 30 weeks tomorrow, haven't DTD for a few months now and have no interest in it whatsoever.

DH is taking lots of long showers...

Most days but with frequent breaks for heartburn attacks.

None... I had SPD and couldn't move