2 miscarriages so distraught

[EPSpartyof3]

Hi everyone
I’m hoping I can share this pain with other people I’ve had two miscarriages the first one was in June this year and then we were lucky enough to be blessed again and now I’m having another miscarriage and so far we haven’t had a baby yet I’m 35 years old and I’m just wondering if anybody understands this

I had a miscarriage last November then a second end of January. No children

37 weeks pregnant now. Stay strong

Miscarriage in January and June, now 21 weeks with what will hopefully be baby number 1.

Don’t give up OP, stay strong, and take care of your self xxxx

I'm sorry OP, it's awful.

Yes six miscarriages here, now one Dd.

After reading a lot on here and elsewhere I took 75mg aspirin daily, I had one miscarriage on that then Dd. I have no idea whether it helped but she's here.

@moobar interesting you say that. I decided to take aspirin when TTC my current pregnancy and it’s stuck. Whether it worked or not we will never know ... but I’d take it again when we want baby no.2

I'm so so sorry @EPSpartyof3 ❤️ I've had 2 miscarriages this year (April and September). It's truly devastating. I'm finding I'm feeling worse as time goes on. I'm starting counselling next week.

I'm not ttc at the moment but after the first mc I threw myself into trying again and it helped but in hindsight I wasn't prepared for the emotional fallout of losing a second baby.

I'm 36 and it took us over a year to conceive the first time, so I have been referred onto a recurrent miscarriage clinic and had some blood tests.

It feels really lonely and I've found that professionals don't really know why this has happened. It might be worth asking if you can be seen.

Sending love xxx

@Keyboard91 I think I'm going to try aspirin next time. I've not really found anything definitive about when to start taking it (I have heard it can stop implantation?) and when to stop?

I have had three losses in total, with two consecutive miscarriages last year. I'm a similar age to you. I found the emptiness I felt afterwards very hard to comprehend, but it does get easier. Feel free to PM me if I can help at all. You are not alone.

I'm so sorry for your losses. I had 3 miscarriages then a baby at 40. I know it doesn't seem like it now but the odds are very much in your favour of having a baby. This doesn't minimise the losses you have suffered though xxx

@Keyboard91 yup I would as well.

@VenusStarr I couldn't get an answer either so just took it for about 18 months. It was the same re stopping, nobody could say when so I took it till she was born.

@3rdtimelucky2019 Awww really ?!! That’s incredible !! Thank you gives me so much hope!

@Keyboard91 wow! Congrats 😍 that makes me so happy and o love hearing it- inspires me I had my D&C today
Thank you hope you are doing well

@Keyboard91 @moobar I was thinking about this
How much aspirin did you take? And did you take it once you found Out you were pregnant ?

So sorry to hear of your losses

I had a MC prior to conceiving. It might sound very easy for me to say since conceiving now (I'm 37), but the sorrow of the experience is now replaced with reflection.

I truly believe that mother nature knows what she's doing. Whilst it might be devastating in the moment, I find comfort now in that there was most likely good reason that pregnancy did not continue. Perhaps my health was not quite right in a way I was somehow oblivious too. Perhaps the little bundle was not healthy and that's why it wasn't viable.

It was not my time, or "it's" time. I'm not, and will never be privy to the reason, but mother nature knew.

It doesn't negate or undermine anyone's loss at all. It's a truly sad thing. But it all forms part of the path for whatever is coming your way.

Wishing you every best x

At the time of the second I never thought I'd recover emotionally. I was completely lost.

I caught again relatively quickly, 7 weeks after my d&c. Took 150mg aspirin for first 12 weeks and after 12 weeks had to continue until 36 weeks because of pre eclampsia risk. Life is so cruel sometimes.

@EPSpartyof3 I have had 3 losses and now 22 weeks pregnant at 41. I'm sorry you're going through this it is truly hard and very emotionally draining. But I decided to keep trying and so far so good.
I'm terms of aspurin I never took it, it is likely to be chromosomal and your body is just rejecting babies that are not likely to be viable, but it could be a blood clotting issue, though I think that's more unlikely.

So I'm sending you my thoughts and look after yourself during your recovery. Perhaps give yourself a little time to recover and then try again. I know lots of people who have had multiple losses and then healthy babies--though when youre in the midst of it, it feels like it will never happen to you x

Hi ladies,

I’ve had 3 losses. I’m 35 and I’ve just found out im pregnant again. I should feel excited but I don’t! It sounds awful but im terrified of yet another loss! I had to have surgery last year (August 2018) to remove lots of adhesions preventing me getting pregnant. I have an appointment for blood tests soon to see if there are any other problems causing my losses. I’m really hoping this one’s a sticky bean but can’t help worrying 🙃 im taking 75mg of aspirin daily just incase.

Sorry to jump in, but where do you ladies get your 75mg aspirin? I have suffered a late miscarriage and wanting to try everything for the next pregnancy

Hi everyone Thank you all so much for commenting on this thread it’s really helping me process what’s going on with me and gives me a lot of hope for a future I truly believe this will happen for us and will find out if it was chromosomal or not I believe that’s what it was does anybody on here have two miscarriages and only wait a month or two before trying again or did you give your body more time to heal?
And I’m really contemplating the aspirin the baby aspirin I want to take that but do you take that once you’re pregnant to?

Sorry to hear that. I also had 2 miscarriages at 31 and 33. Had extensive testing for my third pregnancy as I have underlying autoimmune issues however that didn't find anything specific so the MCs may have just been unfortunate bad luck.

I was also put on baby aspirin the entire pregnancy for pre-eclampsia prevention. Low-dose aspirin also has a beneficial effect against clotting disorders that may cause recurrent miscarriages. You should start aspirin as early as possible because it helps the placenta formation in the first trimester. Healthy blood vessels in the placenta reduce the risk of pre-eclampsia later in the third trimester.

I found different accounts of when to stop. I took it up until week 36 and had to stop because I was getting frequent nosebleeds. Some doctors say week 32 is fine to stop, others up until a few days before birth.

From all sources I read, baby aspirin (the dose is less that 1/4 of a normal aspirin tablet) is very safe in pregnancy. It did feel reassuring to know I was "doing" something which could help. The pregnancy where I took aspirin ended with a healthy baby, which could of course be pure coincidence but I'm glad I took it!

I had my baby aspirin from Wilko. 80p per box in the normal tablet aisle. Yellow boxes.

I’m so sorry OP. I had three losses, and am now 26 weeks pregnant with twins. Stay hopeful.

I was seen by the recurrent miscarriage clinic and take aspirin but was told under no uncertain terms not to take it before 8 weeks pregnant as earlier than this can interfere with implantation. Here’s the leaflet I was given early on, if you find it useful at all (the aspirin bit is near the bottom): mft.nhs.uk/app/uploads/sites/4/2018/04/12-123-Recurrent-Miscarriage-Service-January-2015.pdf

I am taking 150mg a day as that is now considered the optimum dose but I think this is more due to my blood work results combined with the fact I am expecting twins, so have a slightly higher risk of pre-eclampsia also (another thing aspirin is useful for preventing). I’d advise chatting to your GP or a midwife if you fall pregnant again about the aspirin, for their personal advice, just to be safe.

All the best and very good luck to you - look after yourself x

@itshappened can you please pm me would love to talk !

@EPSpartyof3 I had a very early miscarriage at 5 weeks and got pregnant 2 weeks later didn't have a period in between. It was all natural though and if I had a d and c I might be inclined to wait a bit later. My view is based on gut feeling, not evidence x

@Rubyroost oh wow! That’s amazing how is it going so far?

@MrsEG thank you so much !!! I appreciate that !!!!