I found out I’m pregnant last week (not planned) and I’ve ended up in a really horrible situation.
I have been with the baby’s Dad since June and everything was going really well until 2 weeks ago when I found out he’s an alcoholic who has relapsed. This was a massive shock and so horrible to watch, and then the following week I find out I’m already pregnant. He has never been abusive whilst drunk but he is on self destruct mode and I had to kick him out of my house the other night because I couldn’t cope with his behaviour. He says he is happy about the pregnancy but due to his relapse, has not been there for me at all since I found out. In fact it makes it worse because I can never get hold of him now and it makes me so mad that I’m left to go through all of this alone with no one to talk to.
I have told my mum about the pregnancy and she thinks I should get an abortion. This is due to the fact it’s a new relationship and I’ve recently got my 1st mortgage. As she took the news so badly there’s no way I can tell her the extent of the situation yet so I’m having to deal with it all by myself. I don’t want an abortion but I’m so upset and sometimes I think I can’t do all of this by myself. But at the same time I think an abortion will really affect me because I’ve always wanted to be a Mum and I’m 29 next month so it’s not like I’m too young. I guess I just never wanted to do it all by myself at such an early stage and I physically don’t know how I will afford it all on one income with childcare and a mortgage to pay. Plus there’s the stigma of telling everyone I’m single, pregnant and the dad’s an alcoholic - I don’t know if that’s even fair to put a child through 😢