Pregnancy no2

[beaa2712]

In need of some support here. I have just found out that I am pregnant again. My little girl is only 7 months old and this was definitely not a planned pregnancy. I just wanted to know if anyone had been in this situation. I'm very scared and very nervous as you can imagine. My LG will only be 15 months when the other baby will be born and I'm not sure how I will cope. Any advise would be great :)

No advice really but didn't want to read and run!

My friend has only a 10 month age gap between her 2. She said it can be hard at times but finds it so rewarding ☺️

@MooMummy12 thank you :) did she ever feel like her older one would be pushed out because she'd have to spend so much time focusing on the new born. I don't want my little girl to feel pushed out

Congratulations on your pregnancy. Regards your older one feeling pushed out i think you would feel like that with any gap tbh. I have 2yrs9 months between my boys and I felt like that when my second was born and did worry as he initially took it hard. I would say that your LG has had less time to get used to been an only and will probably surprise you with her resilience. My two play together now as my youngest is now crawling and he's always trying to copy the sounds his big brother makes. Big one is always asking for a baby kiss, baby cuddle. They really do get so much out of having each other it's really lovely to watch them. Obviously we still have jealousy and toy taking but on balance it's still the best thing ever.

I would say things to make sure you do is as soon as you can make time again for 1-1s with your daughter. Playing with her in a different room when someone can mind the baby or taking her out, I take my son out for hot chocolate, to look round the garden centre, swimming etc at least once a week to make sure he still feels he has mummy time. Also I really recommend a sling, if you carry the baby on you they are getting their needs for closeness met and you have your hands free for your bigger girl. Good luck hope everything goes well for you x

@beaa2712 she said she did worry but as they were so young they didn't really know any different.

I'm due my second in April and there will be 2 years and 8 months age gap. I was worried at first how I'll be able to stretch myself between them both but I've kept my little girl very involved in my pregnancy so far so she's just as excited as us, though probably more excited :) x

First of all congratulations!
I know exactly how your feeling, my little girl is 8 months and I'm 19wks pregnant. So there will be 12 months and 11 days between my 2

At first I felt like you, was really worried and scared about how I'll cope with 2. I still am, but I'm starting to come round to the idea and think to myself it's going to be hard but so worth it seeing them grow and play together. I'm having another girl.
My friends have a 16 month age gap between hers and she said it is hard at first but once you get in to a routine it all works out. She also said it's good having them close cos your still in "baby mode" so used to the nappies, bottles and feeling tired.

We can do this and in the end it will be so rewarding xx

@inds19 aw congratulations to you too! I'm so scared I just keep crying I'm worried what people are going to think. Probably too much to be honest... I'm also concerned about money because I have moved away from my job so even if I start a new job I will not be entitled to any maternity pay so we will be very tight for money as well.

@beaa2712 I was the same, worried what people would think but everyone was fine (even my boss at work).

I'm also worried about money, specially nursery fees for 2! I keep thinking by the time I go back to work after 2nd baby then it will be a struggle for a few months then hopefully we will be entitled to 30hrs free nursery. I think!
Also I don't think I can claim smp due to not earning enough being on maternity leave at the minute, I will only be going back to work for about 10 weeks so will have to claim maternity allowance. I just keep telling myself don't to stress or worry about anything till the time actually comes. I'm sure it will all work out somehow haha

No advice sorry, but didn't want to read and run. I am pregnant with my 3rd, and DS is 7months (will be 15 months when baby is born) and DD is 5yo. It will be hard but I'm sure we'll manage! Good luck