I don’t know whether to keep the baby?

[Anxietymind]

I recently found out I’m pregnant, it’s an unplanned pregnancy and when I first found out I was happy but scared. I have a majority of people telling me I should keep it and I have lots of support around me, however I’ve only been with my partner for about 10 months so I feel it would be stupid to keep it. Part of me wants to keep it but the other part is thinking I have my whole life ahead of me (I’m 21). I am not financially stable for a child at the moment and I haven’t got a job which I feel is where I want to be in the future. I don’t really see me and my boyfriend being together forever and I feel it would just end up in me being a single parent. However when I think of having a baby I feel it would make me so happy and I would love and cherish it more than anything. I’m also struggling with mental health and am in the process of going through therapy so I’m kind of thinking maybe this will just make things worse if I was to keep it, but then I also have to live with the guilt of getting rid of it and risk making the worst decision of my life.

Nobody can tell you what To do.

Honestly. My baby is 4 months old. Very much loved and planned for. I'm 30. Waited till now because I wanted to live life before having kids.

It's the hardest thing I've ever done. Amazing and worth it. But it's hard. My OH and I have a strong and great relationship. Everyone who's knows us would agree. But oh boy has having a baby tested that.

Life has changed. It's hard. I do feel like I'm missing out, sometimes. It's going to be years before things improve and we can get some quality time without baby.

I wouldn't change her for the world. But I'm very glad I waited till now.

I had a completely opposite experience to Dogs and had my son around the same age as you OP.

Babyhood was so easy, and he slept through from birth. Brilliant feeder. Delightful child.

I think it's often fine if you just have the one as things are easier. I'm glad I had him young

Not to sway you, of course. I'm pro choice and if you think abortion if for you then 100% have one my lovely.

I’m kind of thinking maybe this will just make things worse if I was to keep it, but then I also have to live with the guilt of getting rid of it and risk making the worst decision of my life.

You shouldn't be feeling any guilt if you choose to abort OP. That in itself needs addressing. There's nothing to feel guilty about at all, you'd be doing nothing wrong

Get some counselling from BPAS as soon as you can to help you make the right decision for you.

Get some counselling specifically for this.

I had my daughter young and was pressured to keep her. I love her but life was hard for a while and it’s definitely held me back in some ways. You need to decide what you want from life at 21.