Pregnant & small age gap

[Jadefeather7]

Anyone with a small baby who is pregnant, would be good to chat!

Has been a surprise and feel a bit overwhelmed.

I have a 6 month old already and due in June.

I’m in the same boat! Due in July.

5 month old, still breastfeeding, got the injection and yet still ended up pregnant again!

Watching your thread as I’m incredibly anxious about the age gap!

Oh, and congratulations!!

@GreenDill
Congratulations to you too! Good to know I’m not the only one. It’s been a big shock and I feel like I’m still processing it even though I have known for about a week now. How was your first? I found the first 3 months so difficult (he was a really tough baby who cried all the time). Really hoping the next baby is different!

This is actually baby number 3! DD is 6 and was an absolute dream of a baby. Didn’t mind being put down, barely cried, slept through from 3 weeks old. DS who is 5 months however is the total opposite. He’s calmed down a lot over the last month or so but still severely (and loudly) objects to not being held/having all the attention. Still doesn’t sleep through etc so I’m terrified of what’s coming 😂. I also had a c/section with DS and would need another with this baby so slightly concerned how that’s going to work with a 14 month old at home who only ever wants mum

Ah in a similar position here. My son needs constant attention! I also had a c section so will need one again. I think we will need a lot of support to get through this!

I’m sure we can hold each others hands through it! I’m nervous about having such a small age gap, but many others manage it and hopefully people will be along soon to give some advice

Yes would be great to keep in touch through this.
How’s your pregnancy been so far? I have headaches and occasional waves of nausea. Luckily DH is working from home and able to help a bit. Dreading being heavily pregnant and managing a little one who can’t yet walk!

To be honest I’ve been fairly symptomless in all my pregnancies. With DD I had occasional nausea and threw up once, but with DS I had no symptoms at all (he got me back later in pregnancy with several stays in hospital due to bleeds). So far I’ve had nothing except abit or lightheadedness.

I know, one of my biggest concerns is how I’m going to cope with such a small age gap, plus when DP goes back to work I’ll have the school run to do with a toddler and a baby

How did you find the c section recovery?

Currently 7 months pregnant with a 14 month old- there'll be 16 months between mine. Not sure if we were brave or stupid but we'll soon find out!

@GreenDill I found the first 2 weeks pretty brutal but after that once I became more mobile it was fine. How was yours? How was yours?

@titnomatani congratulations! You’ll have to come back in two months and let us know how it’s going!

I will do. I have found however, that this pregnancy has been nowhere near as difficult as my first. I had it all with my first one- severe HG for 7 months, several hospital visits due to dehydration, reduced movements, my SPD was so bad, I was signed off work for ages and also GD. This time round, I've had hints of them all but quickly learned to live with them because I didn't have the 'luxury' of time to focus on each and every ailment 😂

Ps. Time really does fly when you've got an active toddler- I can't believe how far gone I am. Feels just the other day we found out!

I keep getting a sense of panic at night :( This is also when my nausea is at its worst. DH isn’t around in the evenings. Didn’t have this with the first pregnancy. I guess I’m feeling a lot more overwhelmed this time

Please don't. I had a 15 month age gap between mine (deliberately) and although the first few months were tough, it is doable. Now they are 5 and 4 and have been best buddies for the last 3 years. It's lovely watching them grow up together. I would advise you to get as much help as possible (parents, in laws, friends etc) for the first few months.

@Jadefeather7 my son was in NICU so I was actually up and moving 5 hours after the op which was pretty brutal, but by the next day the pain was actually minimal. The worst pain I got was a burning sensation a week after when I went on a walk around mothercare to buy tiny baby clothes . I got so lucky with the recovery that I’m scared for if it’s not the same the second time around because I’m actually quite the whimp!

I get the same overwhelmed feelings in the evenings also, evenings is generally when I get the “how on earth will I cope” thoughts.

How are you feeling this evening?

@someoneburntthetoastagain have you got any useful tips you can remember from when they were both little?

I know it’s supposed to be great after the first year, I am just really dreading the first few months. I struggled so much with my first baby because he was so unsettled. He used to cry and scream all his waking hours: Ended up feeling really depressed because everyone else around me had lovely, calm babies and we couldn’t figure out what was wrong with him. Tried stuff for colic, reflux, allergies etc In the end when he was put him on a sleep routine at 3/4 months he totally changed. I’m hoping my next baby is a lot easier but I think I’m a bit traumatised by that experience! I had to deal with it on my own after my husband went back to work after 5 weeks and family were not very helpful. My husband says that he will be more pushy about them helping out this time. Let’s see!

It’s interesting to know I’m not the only one who starts feeling anxious in the evenings! I tried distracting myself with tv last night so that I didn’t spend too long thinking about it but it’s hard. Once I was in bed trying to sleep those thoughts were racing through my mind again. How do you try to cope @GreenDill?

Your son sounds exactly as mine was for the first 10 months @Jadefeather7. He almost brought me to my knees 😔 I'm hoping and praying this next baby is different or I'm able to change tack and take things in my stride this time...

Hi all

So I'm literally about to drop any day now as I'm 40 weeks Sunday and I have a 18 1/2 month old son at home so mine are having a close she gap!
First of all I actually cried and honestly not in happiness it was totally unexpected, I barely touch my partner but hey, we all know what rugby nights and alcohol can bring out of you..
It has taken me a good while during my pregnancy to accept the fact I have to share my love for two, we was having another one so close together how can we afford it etc as we are the later side of 20's had the other plans first before baby no 2 would come along, ie buying a home, 3 year gap I wanted.
I've really struggled this pregnancy compared to my first, mostly with back pain, working full time 12 hour shifts and the dreaded PGP, barely had it on my first decided to rock up during labour which was pretty painful! So I finished work on leave in October due to having air of annual leave to take, but the job I done I couldn't cope working full time, having a toddler then and third trimester issues.
Since the date has drawn closer I haven't really thought about it all as I don't want to panic myself like I did on my first and with few issues regarding the baby, ie possibly baby sumo I need to push out along with other issues that occurred in my first labour! Now we have got the stuff ready and adapted it's slowly sinking in that possibly by the end of next weekend I'm going to have two children and il love them endlessly as scary as the thought is!
I think of it in a positive majority of my family are close in age and my children are yet to get cousins so will have each other to grow up to which I think is such a positive thing! Not just that but for myself I get to then focus on me - ie wanting to go study now I am able with the more financial support I'd have behind me!
So I'm scared, I'm even more scared as my partner starts a new job which includes working night shifts and I think can I handle the nightly feeds and wakes as he was a gem on our son as I was the early bird he was the night owl! But it's something we have to adapt to!!
Luckily I have family literally a street away and on the helping side especially with my little energy bursting looney! So I'm praying it's not as bad as overthinking it will be and il just get through it all, we was lucky with our son, he was also a night owl .. but did love his sleep so was getting a good few blocks of sleep!!