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Only 19.. in need of some advice

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jesstasha10 · 10/11/2019 19:58

Hi, so I'm obviously new here so I apologise if I don't understand some of the abbreviations and have maybe put this in the wrong place.
To start with, I have very regular 7 day periods. Never late, never missed one. They are always incredibly painful (sometimes to the point of fainting) and very heavy. So I'm quite used to knowing what to expect.
I had unprotected sex on the 26th of October, ovulating on the 27th.
On the 5th (9DPO) I started experiencing some brown spotting but with no cramps, which never happens. This continued for four days. I was wondering if this could've been implantation as it was so unusual?

I've also been experiencing nausea, backache and my areolas have been getting bigger/slightly darker with some bumps.
I've taken two tests and both have been negative, despite being 14dpo. AF due tomorrow with no PMS signs. Surely it would have shown positive by now if that was the case?

As you can probably tell, I am very scared as I am not ready to be in this situation, yet all of the signs are showing me that I should be slightly worried. Is it possible that I could be pregnant despite everything being negative at this stage?

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undomesticgodde55 · 10/11/2019 21:31

Hi @jesstasha10 didn't want to read and run. You obviously know that pregnancy is a possibility for you, I would say wait a couple of days and test again as you are yet to miss a period. If it comes out negative again but you're still worried book into the GP for some reassurance - they can take a blood test to check your HCG levels.

I hope you have support around you in RL. Take care of yourself it's still early days for you Brew

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jesstasha10 · 10/11/2019 22:22

Thank you so much for your lovely reply, I really appreciate it.
I will test again and book an appointment with the GP as that is definitely the kind of reassurance I need right now.

Hope you're well x

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Sparkle0109 · 10/11/2019 22:24

Were you TTC ? Hope this doenst come across rude but the only reason I ask is 1. You had unprotected sex and 2. At 19 I would have never known when I ovulated .. only way I knew was when I was TTC otherwise I wouldn't of had the foggiest.

But back to your question, it is very possible you could be pregnant, some women dont get positive pregnancy tests until the day AF is due or sometimes even later.
Hope you get the result you want!

usernames · 10/11/2019 22:29

Hello @jesstasha10 !

I'm 20 and I was in the same situation when I was 19. I didn't show as positive until after my period was due so there is a chance you are pregnant with the negative test result, especially with the symptoms you have which I also had!

You might get told you're irresponsible and get flamed a bit for having unprotected sex (this is me assuming you weren't trying for a baby after you saying you're not at all ready!) but we all make mistakes and that is how I got pregnant too. You're not alone!

What is your situation at the moment? Is it with a boyfriend, what are you hoping for? Take care if yourself

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jesstasha10 · 10/11/2019 22:31

Hi, didn't come across as rude at all don't worry!
No I wasn't TTC. Unfortunately a mistake at a party, very irresponsible on my part as I usually wouldn't get myself into that situation but I guess things happen.
The only reason I know when I'm ovulating is because I track my periods with the Flo app. Definitely think it could've been a worse situation if I had no idea.

Thank you! Think it's just going to be a bit of a waiting game from now

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jesstasha10 · 10/11/2019 22:36

Hi, thank you for replying!
It's definitely reassuring to hear your story.
Not my boyfriend no, actually my best friend so a bit of a weird situation on that part.. he has no idea yet.
I'm currently hoping for a negative as I'm wanting to go to uni next year so not the best timing, but I guess you can't always plan these things, I've never really considered what I'd do in this situation before if i'm honest.

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Sparkle0109 · 10/11/2019 22:36

Try not to beat yourself up to much about the whole unprotected sex, as PP (previous poster) has said - we all make mistakes and I for one can't judge.
Keep us updated with your result. Btw just incase.. don't use Clearblue tests to find out just yet as they aren't sensitive trying using a first response if you haven't come on in a couple of days.
Good luck !

usernames · 10/11/2019 22:40

Ah yes, best friend I can imagine is a bit of an awkward oneConfusedif I were you though I wouldn't say anything until you're sure of the answer of course!
Yes, timing doesn't always work out in our favour, it didn't for me either. I imagine you're feeling confused at the moment and unsure of which direction you'd go if you were pregnant, but for now you're not sure on the answer so try (I know it's hard and it probably feels like it's consuming you!) not to overthink it. Have you told anybody else?

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jesstasha10 · 10/11/2019 22:47

Will keep you updated. Have to go to the GP on Tuesday anyway so I will probably mention it then if no sign of AF to see if blood tests are a possibility.
Have been using clearblue so that's probably where I've been going wrong... might just wait until tuesday until I consider retesting.

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jesstasha10 · 10/11/2019 22:50

Just a bit Blush. Not planning to say anything yet but definitely think he knows something is up.
Very confused and it's all very scary, hoping it will all fall until place if it comes to a positive result.
Have only told another friend at this point, couldn't keep it to myself for much longer as I was overthinking everything!

Hope you're doing well!

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wonderwooman · 10/11/2019 22:54

This was 15+ years ago but when I fell pregnant with dc1 I took 3x pregnant tests (which I took when I was late) which showed negative. I got the third test out of the bin and it was then showing positive. Maybe they were faulty tests or maybe the results took longer to show...

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jesstasha10 · 10/11/2019 23:04

Reading this made me just go and get my test out from where I was keeping it.. took it out of the wrapper and there's a faint line there... don't know how to feel right now, might upload a photo to check I'm not imagining things?..

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jesstasha10 · 10/11/2019 23:09

Is it possible to have a false negative? I'm really in shock right now

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usernames · 10/11/2019 23:10

@jesstasha10 upload a photo! Might be an evap line though at this point but worth a look

wonderwooman · 10/11/2019 23:12

Sorry - should have clarified that when the test showed positive I was actually pg

MyGoodTimes · 10/11/2019 23:14

Don't freak out yet about the old test. The instructions usually say results are unreliable after the test time is up. First Response Early with your first morning urine sample is best. It should be accurate if your AF is due tomorrow. Whatever happens, you will be alright. Flowers

wonderwooman · 10/11/2019 23:18

Good luck 🍀
Good advice from @MyGoodTimes it is always best to test in the morning.
You will be alright

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jesstasha10 · 10/11/2019 23:30

Thank you all so much for your help. I'll try not to worry yet and retest in the morning - will keep this updated.

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restingbitchfacenot · 10/11/2019 23:47

You don't have to keep it if you are darling. Don't stress. You made a mistake, you're human. My daughter was your age and in the same situation. She decided she wasn't ready and had an abortion also had the implant at the same time.
If you are and you're not ready you're fortunate enough to have choices but don't feel obliged to have a child you don't want just because you're pregnant.
Xx

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jesstasha10 · 11/11/2019 07:09

@restingbitchfacenot I’m glad to hear that your daughter made the right choice for her. Thank you for your reply, definitely helps hearing other similar stories.

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BarleyG · 11/11/2019 09:30

Hang in there, you’ll know soon either way Smile
I totally agree with the lady above, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with having a termination if that’s what’s best for you.
On the flip side, I was in a similar situation at 23. I was a bit older than you but I was very immature for my age. I fell pregnant and I now have the most wonderful 7 year old and I’m pregnant with my second.
Life works out either way - there really is no right or wrong. Either way you’ll be absolutely fine Flowers

usernames · 11/11/2019 10:25

I'm also someone who had a termination (early this year actually) and now my life is better than ever and it was the right decision for me. I also got the coil fitted at the same timeSmile

PooWillyBumBum · 11/11/2019 11:05

The positive thing is you're so on the ball with your health/body that you've caught it really soon. This means should you find yourself pregnant, and decide not to proceed, you're super early.

Good luck whatever happens!

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jesstasha10 · 11/11/2019 14:57

So booked in to see the doctor tomorrow and they advised to wait with testing again until seeing them. Was sick this morning which could definitely just be from worrying so much but just waiting to see what happens now.
Appreciate all of your lovely replies - has definitely made me feel a lot better about the whole situation x

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Chlosavxox · 11/11/2019 15:03

Why don't you buy a first response early pregnancy test? They're abjt pricey but they're very sensitive so you'd more than likely get a positive if you are pregnant at this stage.