Abortion what's the right decision

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I've recently found I was pregnant and feel all this pressure to make the right decision. I'm only 21 and am already a mum to a 2 year old as it is. My partner wants me to have an abortion as he feel like he is in no way or shape ready to have a baby or even consider the idea as he suffers from really serve anxiety panic attacks etc. Although I understand he struggles as a mother already and with already having a abortion with him previously. I don't feel like I could even put myself through that again. He thinks I'm manipulative and selfish for even considering having the baby but wont take any regards to how I am feeling and how hard it actually is for a women to have abortion in general. I don't want to bring another baby into the world we're I have to do in on my own not that there's anything wrong with that but I don't think it should ever be your aim to be a single parent. However I also don't feel like I should have to get rid of my own child not because am incapable but because he is or am I just looking at this all wrong? Any advice

Didn't want to read and run. No one can tell you what's right/wrong unfortunately you have to do what feels right for you it's you that would have to go through this and unfortunately no one sets out to be a single parent but it happens alot I'm pregnant 15weeks and my partner said if I kept it we was done so I got rid of him and kept my baby but that was my choice and what was right for me you have to take him out of the equation and do what's right for you regardless hope you manage to come to a decision soon xx

I totally agree with PP its down to You and what you want of course he has a say to an extent to tell you how he feels about it but its your body and you who would have yo go through all the emotional side of things.. and tbh by the sounds of it you want this baby. X

You can access abortion counselling to come to the right decision for you through your abortion provider. BPAS should be able to help.

Your partner needs to take greater responsibility for your fertility as a couple if he is certain that he does not want to be a father but this is the second time you have fallen pregnant.

Wishing you the best of luck with your choice.

It's just so hard, when I had the first abortion warranted it was the right choice we wasn't in a good place and that's seemed like the right option, but afterwards I spent ages regretting it and I'm worried it's going to be the same this time. He also said whatever my choice is he's done regardless so either way I'm doing this on my own whatever I decide but if I decide to keep the baby he's someone who's forever going to be in my life. I wish these choices was so much easier but I supposed it's not meant to be so easy, especially when all my hormones and natural emotions are telling me to have my baby. Just got to figure out while it's still early but Thankyou for all advice I really appreciate it x