Currently Having 2nd Miscarriage

[Sparkle880]

Hi just looking for some advice and support as I’m feeling pretty low. I have a beautiful 17month old DS and DH and I started for baby number 2 in the summer. The pregnancy ended in missed miscarriage at 10 weeks (although pregnancy ended at 8 weeks). My miscarriage had complications and I had retained product so needed a second medical management.

I wanted to try again straight away and on my second cycle fell pregnant, I am currently 5+2 however started with bad back ache two nights ago, a symptom I had from first miscarriage, I redid my pregnancy test and the line was much fainter than when I tested 3 days before hand. Today I have started bleeding, it’s like the start of a period. I am waiting for the hospital to get back to me but I know that the outcome isn’t going to be great.

I was wondering if anyone else has had a similar experience after one successful pregnancy and has gone one to have healthy baby number two. I can’t help feeling that something is really wrong, I have read about antibodies that your first pregnancy can produce that effects all subsequent pregnancies.

I love my DS so much but I desperately want to grow our family.

Any advice xx

Hello, I am going through similar. I'm 7 weeks and have had heavy bleeding and cramping. I'm fearing the worst... Scan is booked for Tuesday.

I have a 2 year old daughter and also want to grow my family.

It could be that you are experiencing implantation bleeding/pain... All I can say is I am sorry that you're going through this and I'm sending love and strength your way xo

Hi OP (and eagerly), sorry to hear you’re both going through this, it is so tough. Very similar story to you OP, I had a MMC at ten weeks followed about two cycles later (can’t remember exactly) by a natural MC at six weeks. This was after two straightforward pregnancies and births with DS1 and DS2. This was in July-August and October 2017. Had a little bit of a break from TTC over Christmas then fell pregnant with DC3 in February 2018. All went well, though I was obviously very nervous until after my 20w scan really, but our beautiful DD arrived last November and is one in a couple of weeks.

I really hope that you have a similar outcome. It’s highly unlikely to be anything “medical” and instead, just “one of those things” even though that feels awful to say. My understanding is that if you have three MCs in a row the doctors can start to investigate and treat any cause, but I sincerely hope you don’t go down that route and have a healthy pregnancy and delivery next time.

Be kind to yourself in the meantime

Antibodies are only a problem if you blood type is certain types. Do you know your blood type? If you have your old notes just look at them.

Miscarriages can happen for so many reasons. I am sorry. Xxx

I'm sorry you're going through this, and I know how shit it is, I lost 3 myself. The thing is, awful as it is, mc is really common and 2 in a row isn't that unusual. Not till you've had 3 do they start to consider it a problem. At this stage all you can really do is wait and see, and look after yourself, and remember that it's just bad luck and not your fault in any way. I know it's not much consolation, but at least you know you can carry a baby to term, so there's unlikely to be anything physical causing it. It's that 1 in 5 pgs fails, and but you don't really realise that until it starts happening to you.

Eagerly, I hope all works out okay for for and good luck for your scan. My bleeding is very heavy now and have been to the hospital this morning, my pregnancy tests are showing negative so unfortunately my miscarriage is now confirmed. I really hope you have a more positive outcome, I have my fingers crossed! Yorkshirelawyer thank you so much for your positive story I really hope things work out the same for me, I am so happy to have been blessed with DD. Gwlondon I can’t remember my blood type but I will see if I can find it from my old notes! Redsheep73 thank you for your support, I know that having had a previous healthy pregnancy is good and might rule out some medical factors but I seem to have hooked on to negative ‘secondary infertility’ stories and I am panicking. Thanks everyone xxx

@YorkshireLawyer can I ask if you did anything differently following your miscarriages when you went on to conceive your DD and did you ever have any investigations into your miscarriages x

@Sparkle880 No, I don’t think I did do anything differently, with both miscarriages and then subsequent pregnancy with my DD I took pre-natal vitamins, avoided alcohol and watched what I ate. My hospital wouldn’t do any tests until three MCs in a row so didn’t have any investigations. I just put it down to bad luck. Like I say I was very nervous when I got pregnant with my Dd and constantly knicker checking whenever I went to the toilet, and every twinge caused me concern but I was lucky it turned out differently that time.