Struggling with weight gain/body changes

[StarlyBeee]

So here I am again looking for someone to talk to as family and friends are not listening. I am seriously struggling mentally with my body and how's it changing. I am 23 weeks pregnant, boobs have gone from a 32B to 34E and stopped weighing myself after gaining a stone! I feel horrendous and sad that I worked so hard to get my body how I wanted it and now it's gone!

I am the same. I'm 20+4 with my 2nd. My boobs never got this big first time round and I think it's all gone to my arse. Always had issues with how I look I'm like an 8 or 10 but I used to go gym and now I feel like it's all gone. I haven't dared weigh myself. I thought I'd be ok this time round with how I look but I guess not

Your body hasn’t gone.
It’s growing your baby and that’s a whole new level of job and workout it hasn’t done before!
Of course you look different but you have an excellent reason.

Try not to compare yourself with old you or other women.
But do continue to eat well and exercise (with care and of course mindful of your pregnancy). Don’t overeat or go mad on the cakes just because of the baby and you won’t change as much as you think you will. Have nourishing food that will grow your baby.

I was fit and toned before and that set me in good stead as I had labours I could cope with and was fit enough to manage.

Your body will settle after the baby and you can enjoy toning it again

But you know 20 years down the line from my babies I don’t look the way I did pre kids- and that’s age not the pregnancies!
We change and grow and our bodies adapt and flex.

Be proud of your body and nurture it and love it. It’s the only one you will ever have and it’s achieving something many women would give anything to do.

Your size shape and reflection are really not who you are.

I agree, you’ll have a whole new found respect for your body after labour! You grew & pushed out a human, one who’ll be a million times more important to you than your body shape. You are more than that.

I’m someone who dislikes weight gain when not pregnant. I have a happy weight & I stick to it. But this being my second pregnancy, I have a lot of hindsight. If you want too, you will loose the pregnancy weight. I put on 3 stone last time & lost it all in 7/8 months through mostly diet (not dieting, sensible eating) but also walking a lot with the pram on maternity leave. This is temporary. It’s 9 months and then you can crack on with getting back to feeling more like yourself. Baby will be more important than your weight. I found myself realising if babies needs came first, then they would. They still do now 2.5 years later. I don’t get a lot of time to exercise but I eat healthily and try to at least get out walking on lunch breaks & I'm pretty active running after a toddler!

You are pregnant, you will get bigger. There’s nothing you can do about it but try to accept this temporary phase of your life. Eat sensibly, stay active .. 2-3 stone weight gain is normal, a fair whack of that is baby & fluid! If you are struggling too much, speak to your GP or midwife about some professional support?