Emotionally unstable

[Mickey23]

Hi all, I've only just joined Mumsnet, so I'm very new to how things work around here and I apologise if I've not done any of this right. I signed up to this because I really need some opinions and/or advice. Two years ago I had a late miscarraige at 16 weeks and I am now pregnant again with a new partner at 17 weeks. I thought I would stop being anxious after I passed the 16 week mark, but the truth is I am a wreck and am constantly thinking the worst and overthinking the smallest of things, I'm honestly going crazy with fear. Have any of you been through something similar? Any input would be much appreciated!

Firsty, calling yourself "emotionally unstable" is really unfair and harsh on yourself! You have been through a trauma and you're terrified it might happen again - it's normal, not unstable!

I lost twins at 19 weeks in January and am currently 20 weeks pregnant (again with twins) so I do understand a bit about how you might be feeling. I'm really scared too but determined not to let it ruin my pregnancy. What you went through is truly horrific, I understand, but you're just scared and worried and that's completely and utterly, totally normal. Please feel free to join us on the 'pregnancy after loss' thread and you'll see just how normal it is to be worried about miscarriage or stillbirth, especially when you've been through it before.

Please don't be so hard on yourself - pregnancy is hard enough without thinking you're "emotionally unstable".

Thanks so much for your kind words, you're right... emotionally unstable was probably a really harsh way of explaining it! I'm also sorry about your lose and honestly wish you all the best in this pregnancy! All we can do is be positive and look forward to meeting our babies ❤x

It's completely normal to be terrified of something going wrong in pregnancy. I think for me it was I was so used to being in control that to realise that you really have very little control over pregnancy/birth is quite unsettling. On the plus side if you can't control things you may as well relax and enjoy it. I somehow simulatanously felt both things at the same time throughout the whole pregnancy which is difficult to explain now.... I guess what I'm trying to say is don't let fear stop you enjoying your pregnancy x

I'm pregnant, first time with no previous miscarriages or anything, and I'm also terrified. So maybe that's just normal? It does all feel a bit out of your control, especially early on when there isn't anything anyone could do if things went wrong. It's helped me to talk about it, doesn't make the feeling go away but at least I'm getting some support. Fingers crossed for you xxx