Partner wanting to leave - 5 months pregnant

[CloeDee]

Hi guys, looking for some advice, my partner dropped a bombshell on me last night that he was struggling and wanted time to think about weather he wanted to leave or not... I left our house to stay at my family's and said i wanted to speak over things tonight, he has said no and he's going to stay in a hotel tonight as he needs away from everything? I don't know what to think or do, I am so annoyed at him for going ahead with a pregnancy and dropping this bombshell on me to do it on my own...

looking for some advice really

I'm very sorry, but he's checked out and the relationship is over. What a shocking way to see his true colours. I would be suspicious of an ow, as well. You need to get your ducks in a row and prepare to go it alone. Who owns the home?

Has he gave any explanation as to why all of a sudden he feels like this or is this something that has been building for a while?
My ex partner did something similar towards the end of my pregnancy although didn't say nothing to me he Started telling people he wasnt happy and didn't know if it was what he wanted.. he was also cheating on me at the same time.
Not saying your partner is doing the same of course but I wish I would of kicked him to the curb then but I only found everything out when I was in labour.

Dont let your partner call all the shots. You are the one who's pregnant and he cant just randomly decide he doesnt know if he wants to be apart of it months down the line. I would personally tell him you want to sit down and talk about the situation now or he can get his things and leave for good. (Not ideal I know) but otherwise you are just going to be hanging around waiting for him to make a decision which isnt fair on you. X

Yeah i don't understand why he's done this but just need to accept it i suppose, Its a private let, with both our names on the tennancy agreement, the house is a 2 minute walk from my mums though so he would not be staying there, i have a really supportive family so i know i would never be alone but just shocked and upset x

@Boymummy3
No it was completely unexpected i thought everything was fine, he never gave an explanation as to why that's what i'm finding hard to understand x

Some men are just strange! It does sound like there could be an underlying issue though he cant just wake up.one morning and think oh is this what I actually want. You concentrate on you and your baby xx

I would take control of the situation and end things with him now. If that makes him grow up and be prepared to talk things through properly, then keep an open mind but I’d say it’s pretty clear he has checked out and is finding it hard to make a clean end.

Taking another view here - he might just be overwhelmed by the pregnancy and all, and needs time alone to work out his thoughts. However, you do need to make it clear to him, preferably in person and very soon, that though he can do what he wants, he does and always will have responsibilities to you and the baby, and you will need him to be responsible.
He might just need to pull himself together.
Of-course, if there is OW involved, it may be a lot more complicated.

Why is he staying at a hotel? Does he not have family or friends he could stay with. That would really worry me. :( So sorry OP.

Also bollocks to him being overwhelmed that requires sitting down and having a conversation, going to a hotel would make me very suspicious unless it was a VERY good reason. Sending all the hugs.

What did he say when you asked him what was going on? Did he just refuse to answer?

Sorry this is happening to you OP.