Outsiders opinions

[Soph13x]

Morning all,

Looking for some unbiased opinions to be honest, I was in a relationship for 6 years, due to get married May 2020 however I realised I wasn't 100% happy and we broke up.

After about 3 weeks I started seeing someone new, I've been so happy and realised what I've been missing in my previous relationship however I've fallen pregnant and think I'm around 5 weeks (booked an early dating scan and calling the doctors today).

I'm looking for others who are in the same position as me, that fell pregnant reasonably quickly after a long term relationship x

@Soph13x Hi Soph, i was in a similar situation to you. I was with someone for 3 years and due to get married, but realized i didn't want to go through with the marriage or relationship anymore. Cancelled the wedding and we sold our house we had together.

I got together a year later with someone else and fell pregnant 4 months after being together, we were having unprotected sex and knew it could happen. We discussed we both wanted kids sooner rather than later as nearly turning 30 and now were 15 weeks pregnant and very happy!

Funny thing is i was told i couldn't conceive with my ex partner as tried for over a year and it's naturally happened quickly with my new partner who i used to go to primary school with!! So i see it as some things are meant to be!

If your happy your pregnant and are with someone who makes you happier why not go for it, life is too short!
How does he feel about the baby? was it planned? x

@ejmay90 Hey! I love this story, it really goes to show that some things are just meant to be.

That's exactly how I was, I cancelled the wedding and our house is up for sale. We're both still living here at the moment which isn't ideal but I think il move to my mums soon.

I hadn't been using protection for around 4 years and never fell, as soon as I went with someone else I've fallen so I always thought that I wasn't able to have children and that I wouldn't be lucky enough to ever be a mum. Baby wasn't planned no, I found out last Wednesday and the new guy has just been amazing, I couldn't ask for anyone better for it of happened with.

I just worry about what everyone else is going to think or say, but I know I shouldn't. I'm also scared of hurting my ex but what can I do?

Everything just seems to be falling into place with the new guy 💙 x

People will judge you and think very badly of you I'm sure but you can't live your life for anyone but yourself. Good luck

@soph13x Ohhh wow so similiar situations! I lived in the house with my ex for 9 months whilst it was up for sale, it was hell but he wouldn't move out and we had a dog i was keeping and came home every lunchtime to see (work was only 5 mins away) so i couldn't move out.

It's probably best you move to your mums if you can, as it will cause unnecessary stress on you and the baby being in that house.

I felt exactly the same with falling as we never fell but then it just magically happened with someone new! It's mad how things are supposed to turn out.
That's great the new guy has been amazing and you'll get your happy ending.

I felt the same, as it wasn't the first time i had been with someone, brought a house then split up. That was my 2nd time of knowing it wasn't right but i rushed in to soon with both of them. But stuff what anyone else things, i learnt to get a thick skin and just remembered if i'm happy why should anyone else comment on my life, they aren't living it and know what's been going on behind closed doors.

There is nothing you can do with hurting your ex unfortunately, but i would suggest moving out before you tell him. Does he know your with someone new? as i was seeing someone whilst living in the house (not my new guy) and it didn't go down well.

Lovely to hear it's all falling into place with the new guy x

I don’t have pregnancy experience but I was with someone for 6 years, wedding planned in May the following year, bought a house .. realised I was desperately unhappy and I ended it. Was really flipping hard, selling the house was a difficult & cancelling the wedding cost a bomb!

3 weeks after we split up, I was out for drinks with colleagues & ended up kissing a friend from work. We met up the next day for lunch and the rest is history. Moved in together after 2 months.. 6.5 years later we still together, expecting our second child. He’s my best friend & all these years later, I’m just as happy as I was when we first got together. I never doubt anything in our relationship. It’s the best thing I ever did. Did we get a lot of judging at the start? Massively. My mum was horrified. I had ‘friends’ tell me I was being ridiculous. I just kept my head down, stuck with those who supported us & let time do it’s thing. My mum now couldn’t love my other half more. She thinks he’s fantastic. I’m still friends with those who stuck around.

Only you live your life. Be happy. It might not be the easiest journey in your life initially but come 9 months, you’ll have your baby & that’ll be all that matters to you