Unexpected pregnancy after a big age gap

[Raindays]

I'm looking for sone advice, I've recently found out that I'm pregnant, it's come as a big shock, of course I know we should have been more careful. I've been with my DP for 5 years and have lived together for 2. I have two girls ages 17 and 15 who live with us full time and he has a son who's 11 and lives half with us and half with his mum (every other week). I never thought I would have anymore and it's been such a long time since mine were babies. Whilst I can see this working out, we have the money to be able to afford another child and things may go smoothly and everyone will be happy. On the other hand I'm not sure how our DC will react, it would deffiently be a big shock to them too and I'm worried about not being able to spend as much time with them and focus on them less. Has anyone been through a similar situation?

I havnt been in this situation as my children are only 9 & 3 but I would think your children are old enough to understand. The fact they are older I think is probally better aswell though as I persume esp the 15,17 year old have their own lives and do their own thing so dont literally need your attention 24/7 unlike younger children do. You may also find that they would be great for helping out with the baby :)

If you & Your partner happy to have another baby then go for it I say. Congratulations aswell xx

@Raindays I have an 18 y/o and my husband has a 19 y/o.. we now have an 11 month old and another on the way. Our boys who both still live at home took it really well to be fair, we just try and spend as much time as a family together and the boys dote on their little sister.

I think it was harder on me and my partner getting back into the baby routine 😂

I'm probably overthinking it a bit as they are becoming much more independent nowadays

I have a 19 yr old dd who lives with us, hubby has a 17 yr old ds who lives with us and a 10 yr old dd who is here at the week ends. We decided to try for one together, we had a mmc in April but I'm now 18 nearly 19 weeks. My dd is so happy she said it took long enough, she has siblings from her dad but she always wanted me to have one. Hubbys ds is happy but in that whatever kinda 17 yr old boy way and 10 yr old dd is over the moon, they will be ok with it maybe shocked but fine they are grown up enough to understand, i noticed girls get excited boys are like what ever haha

My DS was 16 when his sister was born. During the pregnancy he didn’t really seem that interested although he’d been ok when we told him. However once she was born it was totally different, they adore each other. He’s fantastic with her, so patient and loves to spend time with her. He’s 23 and living in London for uni now but we regularly go to visit for the weekend. It’s really lovely to see them together and comforting to know that god forbid anything was to happen to me they’ll have each other.