Pregnant and scared

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Purple88 · 29/10/2019 22:08

So I am pregnant and this will be my first child. The father of the child I was seeing for a while and he really just irritates the life out of me. When we argue he gets really nasty etc. And I'm just wondering if I should just end things with him and do it by myself, he has made it clear that if I'm not in a relationship with him he doesn't want anything to do with the child therefore I think why should I stay with him when that is his attitude. Any advice would be helpful TIA

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ParkheadParadise · 29/10/2019 22:16

I had dd1 very young on my own. He didn't want anything to do with us, and told anyone who would listen to him, that dd wasn't his.

It was actually the best thing Bringing dd up without him he also never paid a penny in maintenance.
It was years ago now but I would definitely do it again if I found myself in that position again.
Good luck

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Purple88 · 29/10/2019 22:22

Really? Well that's reassuring. Thank you x

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Fuzzywig · 29/10/2019 22:22

It’s a decision only you can make but if he’s nasty and he won’t have anything to do with his child if you are not together you need to think long and hard - this stinks of emotional blackmail. You can do it by yourself - it won’t be easy but if that’s what you decide go for it.

ParkheadParadise · 29/10/2019 22:24

Do you have family near you?

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Purple88 · 29/10/2019 22:33

Yes, got great family x

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Purple88 · 29/10/2019 22:34

Ok I will really think about it, thank you

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ParkheadParadise · 29/10/2019 22:53

That's good @Purple88 you have family around.
My family supported us financially and emotionally I was still at school when I had dd.
We stayed with my parents until I was 18, dd was 3 when we moved into my first house. They also helped furnish it. My looked after dd when I went to work.

anonymoooose · 29/10/2019 23:02

Similar situation when I had my son at 19. His dad was my first and I was besotted. Together 3 years he left and ignored my calls when I told him. I raised my son on my own and it was the best. I didn't find it hard as my son was a very good baby and not a naughty boy and I didn't rave smoke or drink so didn't feel I was missing out. I worked and just got on with it.
I'd say go for it. It's not always easy but if you have supportive friends and family you will be fine. He doesn't sound like he'd be much help tbh. Good luck to you

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