25 weeks and so frustrated

[Jsnb9319]

Hi ladies

25 weeks today and my back pain is excruciating, was sent to a&e for it last week as I am struggling to walk.

I cannot face another 15 weeks of this I am so fed up and frustrated. Have been working from home and my manager has said it's fine but I feel like the judgement is there from work.

Miss my pre-pregnancy body and clothes, miss eating and drinking what I want and I guess I'm just totally fed up with being pregnant please tell me I am not the only one who feels like this?

My mum said it will be worth it once he arrives and I know it will be but I just cannot face another 15 weeks of this!

You poor thing, sounds so horrific! Can you be referee for physio? Can try seeing a private McTimoney Chiropractor or cranial osteopath too, they're more gentle than the traditional types and lots specialse in pregnancy. Also worth looking for some pregnancy yoga near you or pilates, I'm only 22 weeks but they're both really helping me with any aches/pains in my back from where the body is shifting the weight forward. Would really recommend as they know so much about the pregnant body! Hope you find something to help x

Are you seeing a physio/osteopath/chiropractor?
Also, I found pregnancy pilates great, really strengthened my core which gave my back strenght

It's great that you have a job that you can do from home. I bet there is no judgement from work - these things are always more important to us than they are to colleagues or managers! Your manager will be glad to have you productive from home rather than totally off sick, otherwise they would say that home working isn't working out and move you to pregnancy-related sick absence.

I have little advice for the back pain. I've been there and didn't manage to relieve it very much. Sports massage, soft tissue massage, physio and osteopathy in some combination may help. As might Pilates or yoga.

Good luck, and it will all be worth it

Thanks all, managed to get an urgent GP appt today and she's given me a note to work from home for 2 weeks so I will use the time I am not commuting to do some gentle exercise.

Have my 25 week appt with the midwife on Thurs so will mention to her too to see if I can get a referral to a physio etc.

Thank you :)

@Jsnb9319 have you tried a belly support band ? Also take some paracetamol and a hot water bottle. Also, try to be in positions which are comfy for you as much as possible. I have suffered from terrible back pain for years, so I really understand. Sometimes it feels like my back will snap. It's probably inflamed and needs some rest days to just calm down.

Regarding work, I know you feel bad- we all do, but what are the options ? Maybe my situation will make you feel like you're not alone:

I was signed off with HG for two months at least already. Now I'm back at work but I go to the office once, max twice a week. I'm just doing my best. Your health is the priority. Let people talk if they want to. I also suffer from a chronic illness, so I've just had to get used to my limitations. People think I'm lazy etc, but I'm just doing my best. So ignore the bad feelings and just know that you're doing the best you can !

I feel your pain - literally. Was on the floor in tears last night, walking is near impossible. 26 weeks now. I do pregnancy yoga and see a chiropractor - neither of which make a jot of difference. Neither does sitting on a ball, applying ice or heat, taking paracetamol, keeping knees together, sleeping with a pillow between my legs or wearing a support belt.

Have been referred to physio today but my previous experience is that they'll show me some exercises that I already do at yoga and suggest all of the above.

Fully expecting just to have to lump it for the next 14 weeks but my mental health is fast deteriorating.

I read your message and feel like it was almost me typing it. I'm 21 weeks but I feel the exact same as you. People keep asking if I'm enjoying pregnancy and unfortunately right now I'm not.

I never suffer a bad back but it's excruciating and I'm worried by the time I get to 25 weeks that it will be as bad as you said yours is.

I also get to work from home when my boss isn't actually in the offices where I'm based, but that isn't a lot. I might go to the doctors as well and see what happens as each day is a struggle to sit at my desk and get through the day!

I hope you start to feel a bit better soon x

I'm so sorry you guys feel the same, total sympathy for you all It doesn't make it an easier but it is so nice to come on here and find others who can appreciate how you feel!

I know pregnancy is amazing and so special but it is bloody hard work and actually really not enjoyable. I just want the baby now ... 40 weeks seems the longest time!

I really hope it doesn't get any worse for anyone and the remainder of your pregnancies are as enjoyable as possible