Last week I found out I was pregnant and really don’t know how I feel. I’ve been with my other half 2 and a half years and already have a 6 year old from a previous relationship. Prior to finding out me and my other half had gone through a rocky stage, it has been a difficult year due to the loss of a close family member and other life stresses and we had been arguing quite a bit and had spent a few days apart to try and help this and we had concenplated taking a step back in our relationship. It’s not that my other half does anything wrong, he’s perfect really, looks after me and is great with my first child, is kind, sweet, thoughtful, listens, it’s just I had been questioning how I really feel about him. I am content with him and he does make me happy but just worry I don’t feel any strong emotion towards him. The relationships I’ve had in the past I’ve always had to fight for and made to feel feelings of insecurity or to worry about various things, lots of highs and lows but I feel the love I felt with them were more intense while now I feel more contentment. I had been thinking of the past a lot and think it has made me question my relationship now. I can be quite cold with my other half but don’t mean to be just feel am holding back somewhat, I feel he deserves someone who can give him an equal amount of love in return. We haven’t always been like this and most of the time we work great and have a great relationship. In recent times the main thing we had argued about is me feeling unready to take any next steps like getting married or children and he worried he would never get the chance to and felt his life was unfulfilled and not going anywhere, quite ironic now given the circumstances. He was desperate to become a Dad and is over the moon that I’m pregnant even though it certainly wasn’t planned, I just don’t feel his excitement. We had talked about children in the past and I loved the idea then but how uncertain I have felt recently about our relationship and the pregnacy being unplanned I just don’t know how to feel. A few weeks ago I was questioning my future with him and now I’m pregnant. Just feel it’s all too soon and I’m not ready. I know my first child would love a brother or sister and I definitely wanted another baby one day it’s just hard when I feel I haven’t got a choice and had felt uncertain about the relationship. This baby could be the most wonderful, beautiful addition to our lives, I love the idea of that, I just worry about my feelings, I don’t want us to separate but at the same time I don’t want to take these steps when I don’t know how I feel and don’t want to be in the same position I was with my first child’s Dad. Just so very confused, Any Advice please, Thank you!