Do you want another?

[Echomama]

So,
I talked my SO into having a baby (less talking him into it, more like explaining I want a baby and that being that ;)) and along came my DC1 who he adores and couldn't imagine being without.
Then here I go saying I want another! I knew I wanted another as soon as DC1 was born, as they got older I knew I wasn't quite complete yet. Just as we were about to give up trying (multiple mc's) we got a sticky one! DC2 is now the happiest little 8 month old and they get along as well as a 3 year old and an 8 month old can!
And I think I feel complete.
I only say think because the idea of having another child terrifies me. I can't give myself away anymore and give up my body for another year and then fight to get back into shape and feel like me again, not to mention the balance of taking care of a newborn with TWO rugrats going wild. It was bad enough doing it with just one older one running around knowing I couldn't with a baby attached to my boobs! And I feel like it would take away from me cherishing my two little ones growing up in the here and now.
But, I LOVED being pregnant. The idea of never having another baby wiggling and kicking and the joy of it all makes me so sad. I actually even love labour and delivery, and those newborn cuddles and seeing them grow gaahhh. I love 'em!

How did you guys know you wasn't done/how do you feel not having another when you were semi on the fence about it?

I’m pregnant with my second & I will be using triple protection to ensure I never get pregnant again 😂 this is my second HG pregnancy & they are hell on earth! I also have no desire to be outnumbered in terms of arms!

I’m not a hugely broody person to be fair, I think that helps. I love babies but now I’ve had one, I know how hard they are and I’m happy to give them back and go back to a (fairly) decent nights sleep!

That said. I’ve always wanted two & it took until my daughter was over two to consider another but I’m excited to complete our family with this little one

Haha well I'm glad that you'll be complete with your two lovely little humans!
The outnumbered thing in terms of arms is real! I have a few mum friends with three and I just don't know how they battle through the day with only being able to grab two at a time! I dread to think how they do shopping trips 😂

I am so broody, I think I'd be a great chicken.... 😉 Which is part of why I have the tiniest little crack in the door of wanting another.
Maybe I just need more pets.... I'll get a kitten and see how that makes me feel 😂

I was on the fence for years, my second dc just turned 6 and I am 8 months pregnant with our third ;)

If you have time on your side, there is no rush, so enjoy the two you have and you can always go back if you want.

Im 19 weeks pregnant with my 1st and its been a horrible pregnancy so far. I cant imagine being pregnant again.

If you had awful pregnancies would you be so keen for a 3rd do you think?

I knew I was done when my youngest turned 3 and I knew I could never go through the baby years again. There is 22 months between our DC and it's definitely gone in a blur! DC2 had allergies and we had no sleep for a long time. DC1 and I were very ill after birth and I found it very traumatic. I don't deal with pregnancy well and I'm more than happy with our lot
DP had a vasectomy a few weeks after DC2s birth so no changing our minds now!

I am pregnant with number 4. I am done now. I really really hope there won't be any more

I think I'm the opposite of you, I would quite like a third child but I hate the idea of being pregnant again...

I know what you mean! Our second is 9 months & we've always said we'd have 2 only. We were even lucky enough to have a boy & a girl so we get to experience the joys (& trials!) of both. However, despite knowing that we're done I definitely feel sad that I won't be pregnant again or have a newborn. If I'm totally honest it's all of that I miss, not the crazy sleepless nights, hard work, stress & tears. I know I don't really want a 3rd - although if it happened we'd absolutely keep it - but I did love being pregnant & even giving birth so feel sad that I'm done with that now!

My daughter is 7 and for years I said absolutely no more ever! Then 2 years ago out of the blue I became obsessed with having another, I ached, I cried, I pushed people away because I was so jealous of them having babies. I’m now 23 weeks pregnant with my second little girl