Genetic predisposition to pprom?

[aliensprig]

I'm 30+5 with first baby and really need some advice. Everytime I talk to my mum about how my pregnancy is going, how I'm feeling and what my birth preferences are, I get all this crap about how I'll need an epidural, I'll need pethidine, it's dangerous to be anywhere other than in hospital and it's going to fucking hurt. When I tell her it doesn't have to be that way, that people can and do give birth less horrifically without pain relief, she won't hear it and says I'm being naive and my experience will most likely be exactly like hers.

She gave birth in hospital, on her back, with pethidine after her waters broke slightly prematurely (around 37 weeks) with both me and later with my brother. She said there was no choice but to be induced because of the risk of infection. This is the polar opposite of what I want for myself, and it's making me pretty depressed.

Obviously the answer is to just stop talking to her about it, I know that, but she's my mum and we live at opposite ends of the country. I see her twice a year. I don't have any friends in my situation to talk to about it and I feel really isolated.

If anyone here has experienced pprom and not had to be induced in hospital straight away, please reassure me. Although my pregnancy so far has been low risk and relatively issue-free, I'm terrified that it's genetic and I will have to be induced and give birth in hospital regardless of what I want :(

Anyone...? :(

Not pprom, but my mum had a long labour with my brother, over 24 hours, she said the pain was horrible, and when she had me opted to be induced privately so that she could have an epidural. Her labour was around 5 hours with me.

I however went into labour at 40+5, waters started going and my DD arrived just over 5 hours later, no pain relief and on the midwife led unit. The polar opposite to either of my mum's

My mum had 3 early babies (35, 34 and 38.5 weeks respectively). I don't know if any of them started with PPROM though. I was all primed after her history to give birth early. In fact Ive had a mixed bag... DC1 I didn't go into labour till 41+2 and waters went mid labour. DC2 I did have PPROM at 35+1 and she was born 24 hours later (no induction). I'm currently at 33+3 with DC3 and waters went 12 days ago at 31+5 (!). they're managing conservatively and will look to induce at 37 weeks if I don't go into labour by then and baby is still happy. So your mum's experience might be a vague predictor but there's so much variation and the specifics of each case are different as you can see!