Second child anxiety

[elderflower2811]

Currently 13 weeks with my second and have a dd who is 2. It sounds so terrible but I love dd soo much that I worry about how I will feel when the new baby arrives. I don't mean to sound ungrateful because I prayed for this and I couldn't be more grateful. Has anyone else felt this way? And how did you prepare your first child for the new arrival?

TIC xxxxx

I think pretty much every parent his felt this way when pregnant with second or subsequent children. Everyone I’ve ever spoken to anyway!

Everyone feels like this!

I remember sobbing over dd1 in her cot as she slept when I was pregnant with dd2. I was so worried I would mess her life up and couldn't imagine ever loving anyone the way I loved her.

Babies bring their own love. You don't divide the love you have for dc1, you get extra to go around.

We talked about the baby quiet a lot especially towards the end of the pregnancy and read the ‘Pirate Pete’ book about becoming a big brother. When baby arrived she had a book for my eldest so we could all snuggle up and read. Don’t get me wrong, I still sometimes miss 1:1 time with both of them, but they really love each other and that’s just the best thing ever for me. I did struggle with feeling guilty at first when I was sleep deprived (and frankly a hormonal wreak), but it passed and our new normal is 4 people. It’s hard, and wonderful and there’s lots of love, so try not to worry about that. The first pregnancy I worried about how I would be as a mum... the second I worried constantly about my eldest. It worked out beautifully, and I hope it does for you too.

Oh man, this is exactly how I felt (and everyone I know!), how on earth could you love someone else as much! I now have an 8 month old who I absolutely adore! It's not even like you share out the love you have, it's like you have more love tucked away somewhere. Also, seeing how much they love each other and when they're playing together (or when DS is squashing poor DD lol) makes me love them both even more!

Totally get where you're coming from, but you'll be surprised. Good luck xxx