Off sick and feel guilty

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Im 21 weeks +1 and struggling with depression and it’s effecting my work, crying in front of customers, not being interested, missing things I generally would spot straight away. I love my job and am really good at it usually. my relationship is awful at the moment because of how up and down I am and I find it’s effecting my work too, I’m so unhappy being pregnant and so tired all the time I feel that I should be happy but I’m just pretending for everyone else. I had two days off this week (usually get 1) and I said to my OH how relaxed I felt then this morning one of the bosses said that she’s never known a pregnant person has so many things wrong with them (chronic morning sickness then ligament pain and bouts of upset tummy and I’ve missed half a per week (4hrs) on average out a 40hr week) which has made me feel so upset and like I’m in trouble. I’ve tried talking with work but now I feel that they’d rather not have me there at all then missing 4hrs as she basically accused me of Lying. Im not work shy but I feel that I can’t be the happy smiley person for everyone at the moment and not look after myself. I’m just so unhappy. Do you think asking to be signed off for a week would be awful?

I think you need it... pregnancy effects everyone differently some go through it happy as Larry and others it literally drags you down. When you feel constantly drained and snappy and sick you need to take time for yourself.
You can take a week off, relax and destress and you will feel 10x better once you go back to work Otherwise you may end up snapping at the wrong person and it completely effecting your work.
I dont work but I run round after 2 kids and husband always at work and a few days ago I finally snapped and broke down I was so exhausted I got to have a few hours sleep and I felt 100× better. Think about yourself xx

Oh, you poor thing. I can relate as I went from bad nausea to pelvic pain (SPD) which, combined with mental health issues and trouble sleeping was....not good. Went and cried over the GP, who signed me off for a fortnight. Really helped! Just do it - it sounds like you’re not able to recuperate and feel well enough to be at work.

Also, if you get signed off sick, it may sharpen the minds of your employers and make them take your wellbeing a bit more seriously...