First Pregnancy and Overwhelmed

[csey]

Hi all, first post on here about my first pregnancy! I was over the moon to see the "pregnant" on all 4 tests I did!

I booked an appointment with a doctor as I thought that's what you're supposed to do, however I ended up speaking to a trainee doctor who googled everything and told me I might not be pregnant as he doesn't trust digital tests and I should do another one.

He also said to speak to reception about booking an appointment with a midwife as doctors aren't there to help with things like this.

Since this, I've done ANOTHER non-digital test and it says I am indeed pregnant. However my midwife appointment isn't until 25th November.. I just feel a bit overwhelmed and have no idea what to do. I've read as much as I can online but should I go back to the doctors or just wait for the midwife appointment?

Sorry for the essay!

The doctor can't do anything. Just wait until you get your booking in appointment with the midwife. Both if mine were around 10 weeks.

GP's dont get involved with pregnancies so its majorly done via midwives so yes you need to book in with the midwife instead of gp. You will get an app for your booking app I'm not sure what area you are but it's usually between 8-10 weeks of pregnancy.

What a strange thing for this doctor to Say! I've never known anything like it I would just totally ignore it. You have done tests that confirm your pregnant so that's that. Midwives dont even get you to test as they take your word for it.
If you havnt already start taking pregnancy vitamins. Xx

Yep, as others have said, nothing to do now except wait for your booking appointment and making sure you take pregnancy vitamins (that include folic acid). Congratulations. x

I really wouldn't recommend Googling things if you're already feeling overwhelmed! I found the NHS website really useful in those first weeks before my booking appointment, the information is much more reliable too!

www.nhs.uk/conditions/pregnancy-and-baby/

Congrats on your pregnancy OP!

Thank you all, this has settled me a bit! Also, did anyone take their partner to this first appointment or are they not really needed?

Went to both on my own. For the booking appointment it is just loads of questions to answer about medical history etc. Nothing particularly thrilling. In some areas they will send partner out for a bit as well to ask you about home life.

@csey my midwife was happy to book my appointment on a Saturday so that my DH could come and he's been to every appointment since. He doesn't need to be there but he really wanted to come, I think it helps them be a part of it. You have to consider how hard it is for them, your body is going through all these changes and at this stage all they can do is watch.

My DH said it didn't feel real to him until we saw baby on the 12 week scan and then when we heard the heartbeat at our 16 week midwife appointment. We have 9 months of change to prepare for a baby but for the guy it's almost like becoming a parent overnight! If he wants to come and be involved I'd encourage it

I went to the booking apt on my own. It was long and dull - lots of questions about my medical history, blood test and urine test. I don't feel like my husband missed out on anything by not being there.
He's come to a couple of midwife apt's, which from 16 weeks onwards generally include being able to hear the baby's heartbeat with a Doppler. He also comes to all the scans. x

I'm on my 4th pregnancy now, DH has never come to an appointment with me bar the scans, He really doesn't need to be there. It's for you not him, they take a blood test and urine sample and will also ask questions about problems in the home and concerns you may have.

Congratulations OP. My DP came to my booking in appt, think it was just so he could feel involved & was quite helpful as he could provide the health info for his side of the family, but doubt he will come to anymore except the scans (I’m only 10 weeks with my first so still very new to this!)

I just want to say of is natural to feel overwhelmed. Take it one step at a time. Your midwife will guide you through and explain what happens each step of the way.
Also, don't be overwhelmed by massive lists of what you "need". Essentials: car seat (if you have a car), pram, cot, gro bags, muslins, change mat, sponge, baby wash, nappies and wipes, loads of wipes! And some onesies and vests.
I found useful: steriliser (we combi-fed), bottles, a temp gauge for our room to help us figure what to dress him in, blankets for daytime walks, dummies (we chose to use them), a bag with a shoulder strap and a built in change mat, grooming kit
I'm sure I've forgotten something, but others can chip in!
Many congratulations!

Thanks all, other half has decided he wants to come for first appointment, even though I've told him what it entails.

I still can't believe any of this is happening to be honest, but the sore boobs are making it more and more real each day 😂

Anyone else suffer with being a bit more gassy than usual!? 😳 And I'm shattered by the time I get home from work, and starving!

Anyone else get these types of symptoms?