7 weeks 2 days no heartbeat.

[Jaedee1691]

Hi all, I’ve just come back from a viability scan where they confirmed there was no heartbeat. As you can imagine I was distraught so didn’t take anything in the sonographer said. I’m to embarrassed to phone back and don’t really want to talk to anyone on the phone. Has anyone been in this situation before. What’s my next steps.

Thanks in advance.

I'm sorry, it's really upsetting news. This did happen to me and I went on to have a miscarriage at home.
Have you had any bleeding?

I am so sorry to hear that.

Please don’t feel embarrassed about calling them to clarify - lots of people do this and I am sure they expect it as it is truly shocking news to receive.

A miscarriage this early would usually be encouraged to pass naturally in my experience, but it is worth calling them to check.

Do you have someone else who could call on your behalf? You may have to speak to someone briefly to give them permission to speak to them, but could do it on speaker phone?

Sorry to hear Beamur.

Yeah i could probably get my mum to call but she didn’t even know I was pregnant was hoping to surprise the family at Xmas.

I’ve had very light spotting but not enough to put a pad in.

I still even felt sick this morning which I why I guess I’m in so much shock.

I'm really sorry. It's horrible.

You basically have three choices with a miscarriage:

1. wait for your body to miscarry naturally
2. surgical management (an operation)
3. medical management (taking pills to induce the miscarriage).

The NHS will sometimes ask you to wait two weeks from the first scan before offering options 2) or 3). It depends how far along the pregnancy is measuring - if it's measuring small, they will wait just in case your dates are wrong.

If your scan was with a private clinic you'll need to let the NHS know about it if you want surgical or medical management there. You'll need to contact your local EPU for that - you can find where that is here: www.aepu.org.uk/find-a-unit/

If you'd rather just wait to see if the miscarriage happens naturally then it still might be worth contacting your EPU for advice. Also so you're prepared for what to expect: it can be just like a heavy period, or it can be very painful; it can be one day of bleeding or it can be 2/3 weeks. Either way, if you're bleeding heavily (soaking a pad in an hour) then you need medical help.

The Miscarriage Association have some great information, leaflets and support. www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk

It is very very very unlikely the miscarriage is due to anything you did, and most women who miscarry go on to have healthy pregnancies afterwards if that's what they want.

Make sure you look after yourself physically and emotionally as well.

A natural miscarriage is a lot like a rather painful, heavy period. Be kind to yourself, stock up on some pain relief, I found a hot water bottle helpful.
I went through a period of grief afterwards while I adjusted to the future without the things I'd been planning and thinking about.
It's a hard thing to go through, but it does happen to a surprisingly high number of first pregnancies.
Hugs

I had this before Xmas last year, I was 8 weeks and had blood in my underwear about the size of a 10p so went for a scan and they confirmed the baby stopped growing at 5 weeks. They booked me in again for another scan 3 days later to double check but the next day, I miscarried heavily whilst at my son's Xmas fete at school! The second scan obviously confirmed everything was gone and I bled for a few days like a heavy period.
I don't remember much bleeding from initial find to when it actually all came out.
I think because you were still very early, they will probably let nature takes it course. And I know this sounds yucky but be prepared for massive clots, it shocked me, I don't know what I was expecting but that was weird for me but, of course, natural because it's the lining coming away.
I know it's hard now but you can try again after you've had your first period after and go on to have a perfectly healthy pregnancy.
Hugs xx

@jaedee1691 Im so sorry I have my first pregnancy in June and first MMC in July it was awful esp since no one tells you about it - they let you think it happens but you are so happy and I was so worried the whole time - I was under stress who knows what happened but Im sorry you have to go thru this- please know that IT WILL happen again... right now please grieve this process for your loved baby. What helped me was even though I didn't feel positive- joining lots o IG's about MC connecting with people who have gone thru it- they truly the only ones who understand - I started reading "The Secret" and posting all around me positive quotes and having faith is what I turned to- and my OH did help me a lot... for a few weeks I couldn't stop crying over the loss and two people grieve differently so it was tough - If you want to reach out please do my WhatsApp # 18607945335 and FB is Jessie Alicia (Agnesi) don't give up hope I just found out I am pregnant again :) - which I thought would be the hardest part its not its the waiting and worrying and anxiety of comparing and afraid it happening again its like post traumatic stress … XOXO