Anxiety through the roof after moving house

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DH and I moved house on Saturday, from our first home together (one bed flat) to a 2.5 bed terraced house, in anticipation of our little bean arriving in late January. We've moved less than a mile. I loved that flat so much, and was really sad about leaving.

Since we moved in on Saturday, I've been a mess. I cried three or four times over the weekend cos I wanted to go 'home'. We've already had the kitchen flood cos of a blocked pipe (now fixed) and now the washing machine electrics are busted as well and it won't switch on at all. And because it's on-street parking, I'm getting really anxious every time we take the car out as I hate parallel parking and I'm terrified of damaging someone else's car.

I don't know how much of this anxiety is hormonal because of baby, but I just feel horrible and on the verge of tears the whole time I'm in this house (which I guess I should start calling home). Am I being totally irrational? I just hate this, and I'd love any tips or coping strategies. DH is being very kind, but I feel like he doesn't know quite what to say to me about it.

Any advice or coping strategies would be really appreciated.

Thanks, ladies.

We moved (very similar to you - flat to house, few miles away) when I was 36 weeks pregnant with our first baby and on my first week of Mat leave.

I don't have any advice other than I felt the same way. Random crying and missing my 'home' (even though I'd been itching to move for years).

I think it's probably hormonal. Do you actually like your new house? That's the key question. The niggles will fade when you've got baby to look after.

Perhaps go back to your GP if your current treatment plan is not working for your anxiety?

@nextphonewontbeasamsung I don't actually have diagnosed anxiety or a treatment plan. Just how I'm feeling right now, and looking for any support or advice.

Ignore nextphone user. Anxiety like this is normal and hormones can feed it. I hope it passes soon. Plenty of people miss 'home' when they move and pregnancy makes it ten time worse.
It's so annoying when people medicalise normal human emotions!

Hi op, I’ve not moved house but dh and in the middle of redecorating the entire house at the minute and I’m finding it very overwhelming and difficult to make decisions about colours etc. Cried every day for the past few days about the smallest thing. I’m putting it down to hormones, I’m also due in January. My only coping strategy to try and not feel overwhelmed is to take some time to relax, even if just reading a book or magazine for half an Hour. Sorry I know not very good advice but I get how you are feeling xx

Oh OP I felt like this when I moved a couple of years ago and I wasn't even pregnant. I sat on the sofa in my new house and sobbed I was so sad. Now I am pregnant I cry over everything and everything feels much more than before. It's hormones. You'll be ok, the best thing you can do is actually get unpacking and make it look like your home. Which is so hard when you're pregnant and exhausted and overwhelmed. Is there anyone you can call round to help?

My mum was great when I moved that time - she worked through the night to get my living room set up and looking like my home and it made a really big difference.

@bubbles121 @dramaqueen14 @flashbac @feelingsicknow Thank you everyone. It feels good to know that I'm not going completely crazy and I'm not the only person to ever feel like this. Still a fair way to go before we're not surrounded by boxes and random stuff, but I'm really keen to get some pictures up etc and hopefully then it'll start to feel like home. That and a working washing machine...

I felt like that when we moved but I think it was partly because we got our old house exactly as we wanted it and the new house needed a lot of work. We also had lots of little things like a dripping shower and dirty swirly carpets and the whole place was done in yellow wood chip so there wasn't even anywhere restful to sit. We did get it all done and it's now a lovely home.

I moved house a fair bit over my twenties and found there’s always a bit of a grieving process for your old ‘home’! The first few days, I’d always miss my old home, shed some tears even but found the best thing was to get unpacked & make the house feel like your home ASAP. I enjoyed spending time sorting out my wardrobe and unpacking the kitchen things. Getting personal touches on the walls or just photo frames on window sills. Get one room sorted you can escape too, be it your bedroom or lounge perhaps? One room that feels more homely with nice lighting and fairly tidy! Store boxes for that room in another one!

Teething problems are also quite common and really frustrating when moving! We had a leak through the ceiling on day 3 of our current house. But things got sorted quickly enough!

It’s a big life change. It’s stressful, tiring & overwhelming for most people let alone pregnant ones. I’d also feel anxious about parallel parking (I hate parking in general!) but it’ll become more second nature over time. I had a flat with the tightest parking space next to a pillar once & I cried on more than one occasion trying to get the car in at first! But 3 months later, I could do it like a pro!

Hope to feel lots more settled very soon!