Booking appointment questions

[MagicalUnicornPoo]

Hello,

I have my first midwife appointment in a couple of weeks and I know that they will ask some questions regarding the father's medical history, but does anyone know specifically what they will ask?

The father and I are not together and have an awful relationship (this is completely down to him and is a very long story). He has blocked me on every means of contacting him possible. The only way that I would be able to get hold of him would be to write to him, and all I want to ask him is whatever questions the midwife will ask.

Thank you

They'll ask if you know his medical history. It's OK to say 'no'.

I know he has a heart murmur, but I don't know anything else.

Hi OP,
As above - don't worry too much if you can't get the information.
I don't have any of my own family medical history and in my case, the MW just put " no family history " for me and that was that.

They go through a number of medical conditions like (I seriously can't remember what) and ask if anyone in the family has them.

I think they just asked vague medical questions & mainly wanted to know about any genetic disorders that affected him or siblings, things that could be hereditary. Didn't delve deeply.

They didn't ask me anything like this. They asked questions like "Is there any family history of diabetes?" to which I said, "As far as I know, no."

I did explain that I didn't know MY father's medical history, but I was NOT asked to qualify this statement, and the midwife did not ask any further and was not concerned about it.

I wouldn't worry yourself with it.

My midwife asked for things in the immediate (mum, dad, siblings basically) family e.g. diabetes, glaucoma, cancers, heart conditions and asked my partner the same, and also about his children from prev. relationship, but a couple things I was unsure of and she didn't pry.

If getting in contact with the father is going to stress you out I wouldn't bother. Look after you and your little one. Good luck with everything.

Thanks everyone.

Another one they ask for is defects at birth in either family. Like club foot, extra fingers or toes or missing ones.

There were some that I was like 🤷🏻‍♀️ I don't know details of my mil medical history with regards to babies etc. You can only tell her what you know.