Anxiety about the 20 week scan

[Amyphillips1]

I’m 41 and pregnant with my first baby. I’m already 20 wks plus 1 and my scan isn’t for another 9 days. I’m really nervous about it, I was feeling the baby move a bit and my bump was quite hard and high but in the last week I haven’t felt it move and my bump feels flabby, in fact I have gone from feeling very pregnant to just fat 🙁
My husband just says I worry too much when I mention it....has anyone else got any advice please?!

If you’re worried then you could give your midwife or triage a call. My midwife has always said if I don’t feel right then call and they’d rather see 1000 women who don’t feel right but are 100% okay than have them sat worrying at home. Midwife could use a Doppler - I find that really reassuring.

Sending hugs

I agree ring the midwife if you are worried. They will set your mind at rest. Remember baby is still very small so a change in movements is normal at this stage and you shouldn't expect to see a pattern for a couple of months yet. A change in how your tummy feels could be due to a number of things including a reduction in bloating or constipation.

Hey OP I agreed with PP, calling the midwife or pregnancy advice line might put your mind at ease and they might be able to check you over as well.

I felt extremely anxious in the run up to my 20 week scan, I think it's because it's such a long time between that and the 12 week scan and it feels like nothing is really happening so your brain starts to think the worst. I really didn't 'feel' pregnant around 17/18 weeks so I started to worry but I'm happy to say I'm now 25 weeks with a very wriggly little girl.

These feelings are totally normal but reach out to your midwife or MAU for support, husband's are rubbish with this sort of thing

Let us know how it goes xxx

Hi @Amyphillips1! I'm sorry you are anxious - I am feeling exactly the same way!! I am 18+4 today and my 20 week scan is next week (at 19+4). I haven't felt any movement yet and I'm starting to get really anxious as well!

Thanks everyone, it’s actually just really reassuring to know I’m not alone! I have an appointment with an obstetrician tomorrow so I might mention it and see what they say.
Xxx

I think I felt more nervous about the 20 week scan than 12 weeks. I also found around then that my belly could change quite a lot depending on whether I was bloated, had eaten, even had a full bladder or put on/lost a bit of weight. It's normal to feel a bit anxious. If it's really getting to you talk to the midwife/Dr. Otherwise I think you just have to distract yourself, remember that by this point most pregnancies carry on totally fine - the odds are massively in your favour. Hope you feel better about it!