Miscarriage

[valB16]

Hi, I had a faint positive few days ago and pressured I was just very early. In my first pregnancy I had mild spotting and I knew it was ok. However, with this pregnancy my 'spotting' started around that time I got the positive. Yesterday I started bleeding more heavily like a period. I guess deep down I knew something was wrong but really didn't want to accept it. Unfortunately today I got it confirmed in a scan that I have a complete miscarriage at 9 weeks but midwife says possible I lost the baby very early on. I'm still cramping and bleeding and have ejected the rest of my miscarriage.

Feeling sad is an understatement right now I feel so so devestated as if a piece of my soul has just been chipped away 😔😢😢😢. I feel a massive loss and guilt maybe I could have prevented or did I do something wrong in the time I didn't know I was pregnant.

I can't stop crying and I look at my current child and it kills me that my other couldn't make it. I'm so hurt that I'm so physically empty now I have no baby in me anymore and it hurts A LOT. I can't even flush the remains because I don't want to let go.

Any help or advice or personal stories of your first miscarriage.

Op I'm so sorry for your loss. I've had a prior mmc at 16 weeks and it's painful at any stage. Stay strong and get some support around you x

Don't wang to read and run. So sorry for your loss. Hope you have lots of people to support you. Be kind to yourself x

I am so sorry for your loss 🌺

Thank you for your messages .. it hurts so much to even read 'sorry for your loss' life can be so cruel sometimes honestly .. I really want to have another baby but feel as if I will be trying to replace this angel I had x

I lost a baby at 20wks went on and had 3 more with one almost due now. I diddnt feel like i was replacing the one i lost to me it was more i was giving life that i couldnt to her. 11 years ago it happend & it still hurts like when it happend, being pregnant again does bring up the feelings more. Having more children did help me get through it without having more i wouldnt have coped very well.
Try for a baby when u feel ready dont rush yourself & dont feel bad when u do try & when u do get pregnant,your baby would want u to be happy.
So sorry for your loss talking to family and friends will help u get through it x

^^ I am so sorry for what you went through 😔 having a miscarriage feels so unreal like a cruel prank and it really traumatised me I'm so scared to go through it again but I put my faith in God as I'm a believer and trust this pain will ease through time .. with my first child I was younger and it was a shock and suprise and a lot to deal with at the moment but she's the biggest blessing ever, Nd with this 1 it was planned more or less and I created such a strong bond within days of knowing.. Its hard for anyone to realise understand unless you've gone through it yourself how intense it can be. Thank you for sharing your experience and best of luck with you in future xxx