Possible miscarriage

[Chantal246]

Hey, I’m new here! I took a pregnancy test because I was late on my period I didn’t have one all through September, the test was positive and then I came on my period! It’s a normal one and not much pain. I then went to the hospital for an early pregnancy scan and they couldn’t find anything! The date of conception would of been 10/9. They did an internal and couldn’t find anything my blood test results shown 238 hormone levels and I’m waiting until Sunday to see if this doubles, has anyone else had this problem?

Hi OP, if your date of conception was 10/9 I imagine it would be pretty early to see anything yet on a scan- did they say that might be a possibility? I had a mc a few months back, and while they couldn't see anything on a scan, the bloods indicated it wasn't progressing as they dropped. Bleeding after a positive sometimes indicates that it's an implant bleed, but can be a sign of mc too. Horrible time for you, I know. Fingers crossed for you hun it goes how you want it to xx

Hi Jen, I had bloods and a test which both gave a positive reading, I don't think it's implantation bleeding as it's a proper period so it's really hard to know what's going on! I've got to go back tomorrow to see if the hormone count in my bloods has doubled, it's just a waiting game and not knowing g what's going on ... my other two pregnancies were straight forward positive tests and no bleeding but I just can't work out what's going on! I'm sorry to hear of your mc x

I know of people who've had proper periods (obvs just appeared to be) for a few months whilst being pregnant- so if you've had positive bloods and tests since just try and stay positive (I know that's easier said than done). Thanks, it was tough- but I got through it and am now 10 weeks (still early days, but trying to keep positive too). It's just a horrible waiting game, but you should know in the next few days either way. They may have you back again after the next set of bloods to keep tracking it, depends on the levels xx

Yes I'm back in tomorrow for my bloods to be taken again to see if the hormone levels double! Aw I hope your little one is healthy whilst cooking! It is such a worry it's just the not knowing that's difficult! Are they giving you extra scans this time? X

Thank you hun. I had an epu one at 7 weeks, to rule out ectopic as I had horrible pains- but now I'm just waiting for the normal 12 week one. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you that all will be ok xx

Yes same my internal rules out ectopic! I'm sure every thing will go fine for you! And you won't be panicking throughout the whole 9 months! I will let you know tomorrow xx

Thanks hun. Try to push it to the back of your mind today x

Hi @Chantal246 - just wanted to say I hope everything is ok x

Hey I had this before my 2nd baby, unfortunately mine was a mmc I got my positive the a few days later started bleeding I did get cramps with it, I went to epu who scanned me and was actually quite rude to me because there was nothing there at all on the scan she even said to me was you actually even pregnant! I ended up having blood tests done because of the positive tests and my levels came back to show I had high hcg I had to get them repeated and unfortunately they was going down had to have them done several time to make sure they went back down completely.
It could be a different situation for yourself of course if your conception date was 10th September then you would be around 5 weeks? I think something would of shown up on the scan but fingers crossed for you it's a good outcome xxx

Hi so I went for bloods and they said is went from 283 to 48 so it was a miscarriage but how crazy is it that I'd of never known if I didn't do a test! Women are such amazing humans I was fine either way, my partners reaction from the first test was that he didn't want a baby and told me to get rid of it which is something I'd never do! He's not spoken about the miscarriage though so it's a bit strange right now! Thank you xx

Oh @Chantal246 so sorry you've had to go through that. If you feel like you need a chat about any of it just jump back on xx

Thank you! I'm just in a really difficult relationship! He's awful sometimes! We have children together but sometimes he can just be so moody and horrible! I feel fine about the MC because it was early days but it just shows how unsupportive he is! I don't know what do to I don't love him because that's not the type of relationship I want! How can anyone who's in a relationship want to get rid of a baby?! Or is that just me?! Xx

I totally feel you I dont think I could be with someone who reacts like that to the thought of a baby esp once your actually pregnant... it's hard though when kids are already involved isnt it. Xx

I'm so sorry to read you had a mc 💔💔 yea it's so sticky when kids are involved i know I fell out of love with him when I was pregnancy with my second! I just can't seem to get any feelings back so I know it's not right I just don't know how to go about getting rid of him 😂 xx

Oh hun, that's so rubbish. I really feel for you. I think it's a really shitty way to behave, especially since you already have a family together. I know someone that was in a similar situation (not right for a while, kids together, he acted horribly sometimes), and she walked away... it was hard for her- especially with the kids being there- and she was tempted to keep trying to make it work. But she didn't, and now is in a lovely long term relationship. It's easy for an outsider to say it- I appreciate that- but you I think you should ultimately do what is right for you, and in turn it will be the right thing for the kids. Happiness is underrated xxx

Yessss!! I'd never walk away from my kids but he's just so vile sometimes! He says the worst things sometimes! It's not fair on anyone even him! He's shitty with the kids when he's in a foul mood! Moans about being at work because he's tired (we all have to make money some how) 🙄 men never seem to get on with it! That being said I just have it in my head that the grass isn't always greener 🤷🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️ xx

Sorry, being clearer- my friend had the kids with her and they live with her most of the time. It is true that sometimes the grass isn't greener- but only if there's a chance of change. It may be worth asking yourself if he changed would you be happier? And do you really think he could change if he knew how unhappy you are? Tough situation hun, hope you're ok today xx

Ahhh I've never thought of it that way!! Ahh I bet your friend is so much happier now too! It'll always be shit in the beginning as there will be a lot of change to all our lives but it's been 3 years of this so I think that he won't! He's just so very selfish and things like that won't ever change! Thank you for your advice xxx

No worries, just hope everything works out for you xx

What she forgot to tell you all is...while I was out working providing for our family! The baby wasn't mine! That's why this happened! It wasn't me! Grass could of been greener at home but not no more!!! Chantelle has done nothing but lie from day one! 5 years gone

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