This is hard!

[starlightmagic]

I am 14+3 and really struggling, I feel like the worst version of myself. I feel fat, bloated, angry, exhausted and just about everything else that makes you feel crap.
It’s made me even doubt if this is what I really want after nearly 2 years ttc and a MMC last year which I was totally devastated over!

In short please someone tell me it gets better

Most people feel like this. Dont be so hard on yourself. You are coming out of the worst of it now, things should start to improve now your leaving the first trimester. I found the first few months of pregnancy harder than recovering from a c-section.

I'm 35 weeks now and I've never been so angry, hormonal and irrational in my life, I never felt like this with my daughters.
Pregnancy is weird. Just be kind to yourself, it really it worth it in the end x

@starlightmagic Sorry to hear you're struggling. While I can't promise that you will magically overnight feel better, the second trimester is generally much better (as other people will probably say there's no guarantee as every pregnancy is very different.)

It will absolutely be worth it and I hope that you start to feel better soon. Look after yourself and remember that you're not "just pregnant", cut yourself some slack because it's not the breeze that some people seem to think it is!

Yes it usually does!! It's hard to say as individuals have different experiences, but I always felt much better particularly after 16 weeks.

It's all worth it!!!! Remember - you have a lifetime of love in your tummy! 🙂💕

I felt the same but it gets better. I'm 18 weeks now and went on holiday at 16 weeks and just felt like a chubbier version of me! I feel myself now!

@starlightmagic pregnancy is so hard!! No one tells you that though! I've really wanted to enjoy my pregnancy but honestly not everyone does enjoy it and that's okay.

I'm 24 weeks now but up until about 20/21 I felt awful, the important thing is to put yourself first. Like the PP said, you're not 'just pregnant' you're creating a whole new life and that is not easy! I felt so guilty for feeling the way I did as I know not every woman can get pregnant but it doesn't mean you have to be happy & smiley all the time.

People are taken aback when they ask me how I am and I'm honest with them but why should I make it seem like it's all sunshine and rainbows when it's not? Every woman deals with it differently, you just have to do what's right for you and screw everyone else!

Hope you feel better soon

Thanks everyone, I think I feel guilty for not enjoying it too! I so wanted this 😪

Dont feel guilty for not enjoying it. Im 16 weeks and im not particularly enjoying myself.

I get what you mean about the 1st trimester too, but it all got better for me around 15 weeks. Keep going!

Pregnancy is bloody awful no matter how wanted the child. The reality of it is that it is physically exhausting. It's exciting too yes but be kind to yourself, I really think the reality of how shitty it can make you feel is underestimated /vastly understated.

The fatigue does ease off in the second trimester. The first trimester made me so incredibly tired, even more tired than when dc was a newborn. The nausea didn't stop but that's the exception not the norm.

Billywig i think it varies. After the first trimester I always felt amazing. Loved every second.