“Present” from baby to siblings????

[Starlight84]

Ok so when my second baby was born we got my eldest a present from her new sister. I think it’s a common thing to do. But my question is what would you get if the age gap is large?! My daughters are 14 and 11 now and I’ll have their brother in jan!! I was thinking a sister nomination charm for my 11yr old as she loves hers but unsure what to get the 14yr old. She has a pandora bracelet but never wears it. Would like a keepsake type thing really so the sentiment is there. Just wondered if anyone else has bought a present for older siblings??

Thank you xx

I wouldn’t worry too much as they are old enough to know it’s not from the baby and also old enough for sibling rivalry to not be too much of an issue which I think is the point of the present? A little keepsake is a cute idea though but I wouldn’t make it from the baby I’d make it from your

My children are younger (2 and 4) but I'm not doing the 'gift from the baby' thing, I actually think it's a bit of a weird idea. Even my four year old would know that the baby can't buy him a present!

It might be nice to do a special treat for your girls though? Perhaps a day out or something before the birth so you can spend some special time together? I do think it's important that existing children don't feel overlooked or pushed out, but I'm just not sure a token gift is the answer.

I have gaps of (roughly) two, six and ten years between my four.

I didn’t do it. I suppose DC2 could have “given a gift” to two year old DC1 on arrival, but I wouldn’t entertain the idea of babies “giving gifts” to DC over the age of three. Children aren’t stupid and it feels like a pretty transparent stratagem.

I think sibling gifts are for little children who dont know what's going on and might feel jealous of the new baby getting gifts and attention. I don't think you need to do it for teenagers.

If you really want to I would probably go for a necklace or bracelet, something keepsake that they can wear occasionally.

Thank you! Didn’t look at it that way! Some great points there! Day out sounds good! I’m racked with guilt at the mo as we should be going away next week but I had to cancel due to money. Luckily they didn’t know! But I’m liking that idea of a girly day xx

I have booked a hotel room when we finish work and school in December for the Christmas market in Birmingham and the impressive primark! Also a visit to the kitty cafe. They will love it! I will let my eldest spend her Christmas money but she’s been told it will be wrapped for Christmas Day! One last treat as just us three! I however think I’m mad at nearly 38 weeks! Xx

Sounds fab @Starlight84. If you want something to do to put your feet up for a few hours book into the everyman cinema in the mailbox. It's total luxury- you order food and have it delivered to your seat so you could go over lunchtime or similar. Maybe Primark in the morning, cinema then the market. That way you get a good rest in the middle of the day.

Sounds fab @Starlight84. Make sure you rest in between as PP said. Cinema is a great idea.
You can do as much or as little as you want/feel like it and still have fab time.

Only you know how you’ll feel at 38 weeks so no, not mad at all. There are obvs hospitals close by just in case you needed one, the Women’s Hospital is great and they would see you if needed. Probably worth having a plan, number handy etc.
Have awesome time :)

@KatnissMellark plan is to go to kitty cafe @ 1 as it’s right near train station. Check in after that then almost do primark straight away I think! That’s the one I’m dreading most 😂😂😂 will have all day Sunday as well to look around the market. Hoping the hotel will hold our bags safely after check out so not carrying lots before home but will cross that bridge! Least it’s only one night and won’t need loads of stuff! Xx

I'm sure they'll hold your luggage @starlight84, I've never been to a hotel that won't. Enjoy all the lovely treats from the market

I would not worry about gifts, instead just make sure that once their brother arrives you spend time with them. The great thing about newborns is you spend ages sitting down feeding them so use that time to talk to your older ones after school, also get them involved as much as they want, my friends teens were asked if they wanted to attend the birth (one chose to) and they helped their mum with cooking etc

@KatnissMellark soooo excited to try bits and bobs! Will wrap all the bits we buy on the Monday then chill until Christmas Day! Just need to get through 9weeks of work first 🤣🤣🤣 xx

Good idea thinking about plans! Obviously will have notes with me. My friend who is my birthing partner will be a call away should I need her. Hopefully it will be a smooth weekend! Xx