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Should I find out sex of baby at 33+4...or will i regret caving at this late stage????

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dal21 · 14/08/2007 09:21

Hi - DH and I decided very early on that we didnt want to find out what we were having. As the pregnancy has progressed, I have been glad to be able to keep guessing. But am now suddenly DYING to know.

Should I hold out for the surprise we both wanted? Or should I find out?

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LelsandZaffy · 14/08/2007 09:23

It is a suprise either way, wether you find it via scan or after delivery!

I knew for both of mine, only me and my partner knew, if i was preg again, I would want to know because we are also crap at choosing chames so prefer to narrow it down to either boy or girl names!

sar123 · 14/08/2007 09:26

don't do it!!!! I had a scan at 41 weeks to check all ok and was sorely tempted to find out, even though dp and i had agreed all along not to. Thankfully, the sonographer said baby was too big to tell (all squashed up, no way of seeing) and i was relieved in fact - dp would have been really disappointed in me for caving in so close to the event!!! And the moment in the delivery room when they told us it was a girl and we both started crying will stay with me forever.

zaphod · 14/08/2007 09:27

Hold out.

FioFio · 14/08/2007 09:29

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LelsandZaffy · 14/08/2007 09:30

O.. I would say, just reading the other post, my dp was slightly disappointed when we found out that dd2 was another girl!.. of course he was besotted when she was born! But still, I would like to know myself and not partner! Which isn't very fair!

So my conclusion is hold out!

Lorayn · 14/08/2007 09:31

Don't do it!!!
I found out with my first, and not with my second, the not knowing made it soooooooooooo much more exciting when I first laid my eyes on ds.

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dal21 · 14/08/2007 09:32

Ah Sar - that is just lovely! and that was exactly why i didnt want to know pre delivery as I really wanted that moment too! Thanks for refocussing my attention on that picture!

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sar123 · 14/08/2007 09:38

you are so nearly there....good luck with it all!

PurpleLostPrincess · 14/08/2007 11:00

Sorry I didn't catch this earlier!

I know you're dying to know but at the same time stop for a moment and ask yourself what your gut feeling is deep inside?

I didn't find out with DS and DD1 and had no inclination to know at all whereas I realy wanted to find out with this lo...

My bf had a similar dilemma to you (decided not to find out but then nearly changed their minds much later on). They decided to keep it a surprise and were over the moon.

It's not my decision but my initial reaction was if you've come so far, why not wait that little bit longer?

Thing is, there's no right or wrong - hope you find out what suits you and dh best xxx

Miaou · 14/08/2007 11:14

There is so much I don't remember about my labours - but with all four I remember that magic moment when I found out what I had had - every time was a huge surprise (because every time my gut instinct had been wrong ) - such a special moment to treasure! You get to find out and cuddle them at the same time

Hold out, in conclusion

Uki · 14/08/2007 11:15

What do you think the baby is?????

a sweedish study found that for women that didn't have a strong gender preference, they were something like 85% correct.

So maybe you already know. although it will still be a suprise confirmation!!!!

I was in your position and didn't find out, we had a long and toublesome birth and when the midwife held the baby up at the end so we could see, it was just fantastic we found out for this one as dh wanted to, but I have no suprise to look forward to at the end of labour and i find that a bit well boring.

It makes it more exciting for everyone else if you don't know too.

Gemy · 14/08/2007 13:05

I have found out with my first and when she arrived it certainly was not boring! I don't feel I lost any of the magic - it is a surprise no matter how you find out.

But, I do agree with the other posters, you have held out this long and think of the reasons why you originally decided not to find out at 20 weeks......be strong!

I had my 20 week scan yesterday and we found out again and was extremely happy. I now keep daydreaming about my new baby girl my husband really wanted to find out more than I did and him knowing and me not, would not have lasted for more than a few seconds before I would have begged him to tell me!!

Jbck · 14/08/2007 13:35

I've a growth scan a week on Monday & we're hopefully finding out. DD is determined baby is a girl & I don't want to see her cry if it isn't. If we know in advance we can steer her towards all the good points of baby brothers.
Friends of mine had an amnio but elected not to find out the sex, they had an appt with the consultant at 36 weeks & he left the room with their file lying on the desk in front of them. She says she had to sit on her hands not to sneak a peak.
Only you & your DH can make the right decision for you, hope you get whatever it is you want, unless it's a puppy cos that's pretty unlikely

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