Being weighed

[Jollitwiglet]

I'm 34 weeks pregnant and my last 2 routine midwife appointments she has weighed me and I don't know why. I was seen at hospital at 29 weeks where I was also weighed. Pre pregnancy I had a normal BMI and although my weight gain has been quite high, I wouldn't say it has been alarmingly so (14kgs so far). It's been a little all over the place in my third trimester. I lost 1kg between 29 and 31 weeks, but put that down to being weighed on different scales at a different time of day wearing different clothes rather than an actual weight loss. And now between 31 and 34 I've put on 3kgs. Is anyone else being weighed? I didn't think they weighed during pregnancy and now I don't know if she is concerned about something. I know I should just put my big girl pants on and just ask her, but I'm in a bit of a bad headspace and don't feel able to question these things.

Normally I wouldn't be so concerned but at 31 weeks my fundal height was over the 90th centile, and now it's on 50th centile. I've also just had bloods done to test to rule out choleastasis and pre eclampsia which I have to phone the ward for the results tomorrow. I have normal BP and no protein in my urine so pre eclampsia seems very unlikely.

This baby was conceived the first cycle after a miscarriage and I have really struggled with this. I've been convinced from the start that something is going to go wrong so I'm sure this is all just stemming from anxiety. I feel silly for being so worried when so far I've been a low risk pregnancy with no medical complications other than normal pregnancy stuff!

Please help me get my head out my arse, but gently. I am normally quite good at being logical, just not right now

Totally understandable that you’re feeling anxious after suffering a loss.

Can your husband or a friend accompany you in your next midwife appointment, to help you feel more confident asking?

Try not to worry everyone gets weighed it's just to monitor your weight gain as to what's normal for you it's for measurements etc not for them to judge you or call you a fatty!please please try not to worry so much its normal to have fears and anxieties especially with first pregnancies Try to enjoy it and speak to your midwife about your fears/anxiety she may be able to refer you just to ease your mind. Hope this helps Good luck with the pregnancy xx

@FriedasCarLoad I know my husband would come if I asked but I just feel a bit silly him missing work because I can't ask a basic question. I know he wouldn't mind, he is very supportive I just don't like feeling like I'm being an inconvenience

@GlitterSparkle85 that's the thing it's not even my first pregnancy, I have a 2 year old. But with her I was only weighed at my booking in and at hospital when I went into labour. She knows I've been struggling with my anxiety but so far I have said I don't feel like I need a referral and I can manage, I guess I'm just crap at asking for help

Thanks ladies

Awww huh never feel embarrassed or ashamed chances are theres always someone there to share your story with and its natural to worry during pregnancy ask for the help if you need it no one is going to think less of you!x

As a husband myself, with a wife who had a few but totally normal anxieties, I recommend you ask him anything and everything you feel now (and going forwards).
It's great to be involved, trusted and to help (especially the help bit). You can just ask him to remember to ask as you think you might forget if you like to play it down a bit.

In my experience you are about to do something amazing, but afterwards you might need a bit of help with all manner of things after, all of which will have questions associated with them (assuming this the first?) such post birth bleeding, uterus contraction, hormone rollercoaster changes... Starting involving husband now with 'routine' appointments and questions is a good step i reckon.

I get weighed every appointment but I'm not in the UK, they also never measure bump size here - it's not seen as giving any really useful info because so many things affect it including the position of the baby.

I think the midwife would tell you if she was concerned but could you maybe bring it up in a chatty way if that's easier, like mention you don't remember getting weighed so much with your first one and why is this time different.

Oh meant to mention, I was reading about weight gain and apparently the bulk of it is in second trimester and in the third trimester weight gain can really fluctuate.

I got weighed every couple of appointments too.

Theyll keep an eye on you I'm sure. Please speak to your midwives regarding any concerns you have or any questions. They can be a good source of information and use the referrals to voice concerns. You might feel loads lighter.

I'm sorry for your loss also.

I got checked more regularly for inconsistent growth patterns which ended up at static growth at 39+weeks nearly 40 so I was induced.

Thankyou everyone I'm feeling a lot calmer today. I'm going to wait until my husband is home to phone the ward for my results and he will help me ask any questions I need to. I've written down what I'm worried about and he is happy to speak to them for me if I don't feel able to ask