When am I ready!

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I know most people will say you are never really ready for children, but how did you all know you were ready?

I have been married 2 years, approaching 30 and my partner is 8 years older. We know we would like children, but we're just not sure yet. We're planning to move to a bigger house, and my job means maternity pay kicks in, in December next year so we'll be ready for early 2021, but I just hate planning things that far in advance incase it never happens.

Any advice, or personal experience would be great!

Thank you

Hi! Myself and my partner have been together 9 years and last Christmas we just had a weird urge to want to tell family and friend we were pregnant when we weren't nor had we been trying? We talked about it more seriously for a couple of months just figuring out if we at least have a few ducks in line for a baby. Then one day I just left me husband a note in the kitchen saying that we're going to start trying this summer, and that was it! Now 7weeks pregnant.

I feel like we just needed one of us to be sure then we both were! Hope this helps!

Emotionally - always felt ready, being a mummy was all i had ever wanted.

Practically - I waited until I'd met the right person and we'd had a few years just the 2 of us first (which included a big selfish once in a lifetime holiday that just wouldn't have been the same with a child!). Also owning our own home first was important so we did that and got life insurance, wills etc sorted. Then we started TTC!

Now we have a beautiful one year old and are engaged to be married. Not the order everyone does it in I know but right for us.

I had my baby at 28 and to me having the first before 30 was important too as that's the age that fertility starts to (very slowly) decline.

If you're happy in your marriage, both want children, financially stable and have somewhere to live, I'd go for it op

We decided in 2016 that 2017 would be a good year job and money wise but then 2017 came round and I changed jobs which worked in our favour especially the maternity package. We delayed and decided 2018 would be better but then something at work made me consider delaying again. A few months later we realised we would keep delaying for what ever reason if we let ourselves so we agreed to just go for it and now I have my baby in my arms I think waiting for big things like moving house or to get full maternity benefits from work are worth doing but it's very easy to find a minor reason to delay. I think you just get to a point where you stop delaying anymore