How often is too often?

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Fiancé and I decided to finally start TTC our first baby came off the pill at the end of August and have had my first real cycle since then. I don't want to get too caught up in ovulation tests/dates etc because I know what I'm like... I'll drive myself mad and get stressed. I just have the mentality that if it happens, it happens. I do have the Flo app, mainly to see when my most fertile windows are.

We have quite an active sex life anyway, but during my ovulation window we have been DTD once a day (Flo counts about 10 days high chance of conceiving). Is this a good thing or not? I read that overdoing it can decrease the sperm count and quality so I'm a bit worried i might be doing more harm than good this way. Just would like some reassurance really 

You're probably better off posting this on the conception board :)

Every time we've conceived (4 pregnancies) it's been every other day.
I found that Flo predicted I ovulated earlier than I did so you might want to try a couple and see if they match up. I find Ovia works for me.
Good luck!!

Wrong board.

Every other day is recommend for optimum sperm quality ;)

@aliensprig @yellowmelon I get more responses on the pregnancy board than on the conception board. I posted this same thread on conception hours ago and got 2 replies, if I'm in the way please feel free to go around me 

Thanks for the helpful responses @Inthesky42 @DaisyF1986 xx

She's probably posted this on the pregnancy board rather than conception as how would people know if they haven't conceived yet how much is too often? Probably the best responses are going to come from people that have already conceived.... maybe?

The sperm meets egg plan (available to download free via amazon) recommends dtd every day during the fertile window (prob about 5 days) including the day after ovulation. I've managed to get pregnant twice within the first month if trying using this method. I also used tracking, temping and opks to identify when the fertile period was.

We went for every other day. Kept things fun and not too exhausting and "planned" etc.
If you go for every other day then there will always be sperm ready for the egg.

We did everyday for 10 days - it was only our second month trying, but we had sex 3-4 times a week anyway so it didn't feel much more.... bf was definitely very up for it. I don't know if we'd have been able to maintain that though had we not got caught.

As it's our first, it was exciting!

Good luck. Xx

@FearnRJ I don't know why it's such a big deal to post on a pregnancy board?! Like you say it helps to have people speaking from experience so thank you for your post

@Mum2b2020 thank you for the tip! There are so many apps so it's defo helpful to have suggestions on the best ones hope I have as much luck as you!!

@Frizzy1986 it's like setting them up on a blind date isn't it haha, thank you for the advice lovely.

@sphr57 ahh glad to know you've had a positive outcome from a daily deed I think we'll keep on as we are for now and give ourselves the best chances! Thank you for posting xx

We did every other day from the end of my period until a few days after my predicted ovulation (wasn't temping or anything so was literally just based on dates, so thought it best to have a bit of a buffer). Seems to have been a very effective approach for us 😬

It's just a myth that sperm isn't as good if u do it every day
Do it every day it only takes one. The more in there the better the chances

Look up the SMEP method. I think it's something like every other day for the whole cycle once your period finishes, increasing to every day during your fertile window (I think??)
That way there's always sperm in there waiting for the egg. Sperm lives for around 5 days inside you, the egg has a 24 hour window to be fertilised. So best to have sex before and leading up to ovulation to have the best chance of conceiving.
Other things you can try is the preseed lube (from Amazon). Good luck xx
You will become a bit obsessed but that's pretty normal tbh.

Flo gave me the wrong dates. Use your body as the guide to when your fertile window is (I.e CM and other tell tell signs).

Every day, every other day. What ever you're feeling!

Thank you so much for all your helpful advice!

@Jesse70 that's what I thought too?! Surely every small chance is a chance right?

@Holpop19 I've not heard of that, getting on google now thanks lovely xx

@holidays987 A few people have said Flo isn't that accurate, it's kind of putting me off it tbh! Thank you xx

Apparently the reason most couples who have no fertility issues don't conceive is because they just aren't having enough sex seems very silly doesn't it

I read that if the man has a normal sperm count then every day was good but every other day if it was low. We have no idea about my husband's sperm count so did 2 days one, 1 day off during fertile window and worked for us!

I can only speak for myself but we did every day (sometimes up to 3x a day) with no 1 and every day with no 2. Both conceived the first month

@Buyitinbamboo 3 times a day?! I take my hat off to you girl

Thank you all for your replies. I think we'll just keep on as we are and hope for the best! Xx

Haha I should say that never happens anymore. The thought alone makes me tired!

I ttc for 2.5 years and had to go on fertility treatment I sacked opks off and ddt every other day for the full month and caught

To be honest when TTC I never researched the mechanics of it, I knew roughly when my fertile window was but didn't do anything else.
My first was unplanned and we were having sex 2-3 times a day so that's what we did when we were trying for 2 and 3 was pregnant after three cycles for DC2 and the month following coil removal for DC3.
DC4 was also unplanned but again we were having a lot of sex.