Sex in pregnancy. Anyone?

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36 weeks. Exhausted, uncomfortable, insomnia. DP working long hours and we barely get time to ourselves and when we do we're desperately trying to get sleep. I'm up all hours wide awake and then exhausted the next day.

Anyone else?

Will we ever be intimate again? Feel like this will only get so much worse with the baby coming any hope?

Yes there is hope. My son is 12 weeks and once my stitches healed and I stopped bleeding (approx week 5) we started having sex again. Nowhere near as frequently as we used to. Babies are exhausting and sleep is our favourite past time... But friends have reassured me it does come back eventually.
Good luck for when your little one gets here!!

I was like that at 36 weeks with ds. I missed the intimacy but was just shattered and physically just couldn't do it. I'm now 38 weeks with DC number 2 so I'm living proof that the sex life does recover after a while! As long as you're both patient and keep communicating with each other, and dont push yourselves or each other too hard to get back on the horse you will get it back. In the meantime maybe try and find other ways to keep the intimacy and affection going, and make some time just for the two of you if you can.

Don’t stress about it, I count on one hand the times we had sex during pregnancy one. I had HG and sex while vomiting didn’t appeal. By the time I was less sick, I was huge, anaemic & uncomfortable. Also not exactly a mood enhancer!

It will come back. It’s not forever. Sure, first few months was basically nothing. I had recovery issues from tears & infections plus exhaustion & a baby in your room. But it all gets better. By 6 months, baby was sleeping a decent 4/5 hour stint in her own room, I felt fine down there and all was well. I’d say our sex live is less than it was but that’s the nature of children. It’s also not terrible. We just have different priorities sometimes!

Pregnant with no.2 now who I’m fairly convinced was conceived in a bathroom in a hotel in Spain - when you share a room with a toddler, you find other ways

I'm 32 weeks and we've had sex about twice since I found out! I bled after both times so freaked out a bit and now I'm too tired and fat. Luckily DH is very understanding and hasn't even mentioned it for weeks.

After both my other children were born (not much sex in those pregnancies due to bleeding) things went back to normal within a few months. Don't worry too much, it's normal not to be up for it and doesn't mean your sex life is permanently over!

@Bobthefishermanswife my baby is also 12 weeks and we tried to have sex the other day for the first time and Jesus it knackered it was like it didn't fit anymore! Had to give up lol.

I'm 35 weeks and still been having sex once or twice a week, but it's not very enjoyable or sexy, think I'm definitely ready to give up bothering until after the birth and healed up.

@20viona it is tiring, sometimes it's easier to lay back and let him do all the work 😂

Yes it does feel like he didn't fit, I'll admit it hurt the first couple of times, but it does feel better with time.

I think you'll definitely be intimate again, just when depends on you, your body & your partner!

DH and I were quite active sexually during pregnancy, but after (vaginal) birth sex was really painful (for me - I think I was quite dry - perhaps lube would've helped but we never got around to it. If I'm honest, I wasn't particularly keen and probably would've preferred sleeping). I was exclusively breastfeeding, not sure if there is any connection but once we started weaning and I got my period back at 6 months everything was normal again.