Has this happened to any care leavers

[rosie1998]

This is a very sensitive topic and I understand if you have gone through this . I feel for you ❤️

I'm currently in a situation where social services are telling me that once I have given birth (30/10/19) I will be placed in a Forster home with my son . Social services have been there from the start of my pregnancy I have split up with the baby's dad and the child is under protection . I have done everything social services have asked off me and I am now prioritiesing me and my son . They are saying the assessment they have done on me is all positive and I'm waiting for that to come in the post . They have said everything I have done so far is all good but they still have to asses how I will be with the baby . I had a plo meeting the other day and they have said if I don't agree to this placement then they will take this to court . I had got the reason why they made this decision and this decision was made 45 minutes before this plo meeting was to take place . "Because I had received my subject access " iv reacted in a way that was not right . I was waiting from 9:30 for my solicitor to come to this meeting while I was sitting in the reception of the council office I was going through my subject access and came across a name I didn't recognize . I called up my mother and asked her who this person was we was laughing and joking about why this person was in my subject access .Anyway I didn't realize that the council solicitor was sitting opposite me and was listening in to my conversation with me mum . Social service had nothing to go on and have even said the reason why they have made this decision is because I wouldn't give them more off an extension to provide my subject access and because I was looking through my subject access while I was waiting for the meeting .. I called up my mum and started laughing and joking with the fact that someone else information was in my file .

If anyone has been in this similar situation to this please do let me know .. I don't feel it's right that social services could make a decision in 45 minutes and provide no paperwork as off yet

www.communitycare.co.uk/2017/12/15/next-thing-knew-unborn-child-social-worker/

communitycare.co.uk/2017/12/15/next-thing-knew-unborn-child-social-worker/

Do you think that maybe you're focusing on the wrong thing here? SS dont go to all this trouble for no reason. Why are you laughing and joking in a serious setting when you're basically fighting to keep the custody of your baby? It says that you're not taking this seriously enough.

If they are talking about foster care for you and your baby you must be quite young. Would your own mum be suitable and willing? You need to work with SS

I was laughing and joking at the fact that my mum was asking my dad if there was anything that she needed to tell him no one in my family knew who this person was and why they are in my file ... There's no law saying you can't laugh and joke in a ' serious setting '

They are still wanting to asses how I am with the baby I have alot off support around me and people that are willing to help me family and friends we had a family conference a week before and the social worker agreed to this plan that I'll be coming home with the baby . Yes I'm only in my 20s

There's no law saying you can't laugh and joke in a ' serious setting

No but it's obviously done you no favours has it? I'm thinking there's a lot more going on here than what you're saying in your posts. My advice would be to jump through every hoop SS put in front of you, keep your head down and concentrate on being a mother.

Any other woman would not be judged the same way for having a laugh with her own parents. No advice, just sympathy .