Snoring partner & 24+ weeks pregnant

[meccacos2]

Last night my partner snored all night.

When I woke him and begged him to lie on his side so he wouldn’t snore - he refused and went back to sleep on his back.

This morning I had work and woke up in agony as my stomach was cramping and I hadn’t slept properly all night.

I took a quilt and a pillow and went and slept downstairs on a very uncomfortable lounge suite.

I managed to get about an hour and a half sleep before my alarm went off and I went into work late.

When I get back up to the bedroom he’s lying in bed, reading his phone and asking me if I’m mad at him.

Of course I’m mad at him!

I had work in the morning and he didn’t. He’s off work for a couple of weeks (annual leave).

Im also wishing thing I could just leave and live by myself but I can’t, I’m massive already and the baby is due in 3 months.

I’m so exhausted today and I’ve been cramping all day like someone is stabbing me.

I think he knows I’m completely stuck. I feel so vulnerable right now.

I discussed it with a friend and her automatic reply was that it was his house. It’s so true. He owns the house and I’m only being allowed to live there because I’m pregnant.

I never thought for a minute of kicking him out of bed - but why couldn’t he just sleep on his side??

I don’t know where I’m going to sleep tonight.

I’ve been asking him to sort out his abiding - it’s getting worse. He’s put on weight since I got pregnant and is moody and I just can’t cope.

I know I’m going to be expected to cook dinner when I get home and I’m just exhausted.

sort out his snoring - not abiding

Im only allowed to be living there as I'm pregnant

Wow.
what a line.

Did you live together before you fell pregnant? He sounds very selfish....

So I think you have other issues going on apart from the snoring that you may want to discuss with your partner before the baby arrives -

Can't really advise with those issues - but with the snoring, would you be able to use earplugs ? I slept a lot during my first pregnancy and any noise (quiet music, floorboards creaking, partner snoring or just breathing) would really interfere with my sleep. I started using earplugs and never looked back - guaranteed quiet!
(When the baby arrived, I didn't need them anymore - I was so tired I would've been able to sleep through anything)

I mean, earplugs would fix the snoring problem, but I don't really think that's your problem.

I, also have nights when DP just keeps rolling back over, where I could smother him, but he generally does respond to a suggestion/kick, and the suite downstairs is fine to sleep on, or I could crawl in with one of the kids if I wanted. But then I share a house, I'm not 'allowed to live there'

Judging by your previous threads, snoring is the least of your worries.

There's no other way to say it.

He. Doesn't. Give. A. Shit

@paperplant

So I think you have other issues going on apart from the snoring that you may want to discuss with your partner before the baby arrives

Can't really advise with those issues - but with the snoring, would you be able to use earplugs ?

If he’s not snoring he is turning over melodramatically in his sleep, and the jolt on the mattress wakes me up.

This is something new. Clearly, there is so something else going on with him.

@Celebelly

Judging by your previous threads, snoring is the least of your worries.

I realise that now.

Everyone on here warned me and I wouldn’t listen.

There is now this expectation that I have to cook when I get home from work. I’m massive already and exhausted. I plan the meals, pick up something from the shops and drive 30 minutes on the freeway.

I thought today he might offer (given he has been off work all day and hasn’t done anything since lunch time), but I suspect he has been gaming all afternoon. These are behaviours that have only surfaced since he’s been on annual leave.

My attraction to him has now gone down to zero. I have no idea how I’m going to recover. If I had any other option, I feel I would walk away.