Brother in-law pregnant too....

[zany]

I'm 35 and about 10.5 weeks and due for my 12 week scan in 2 weeks. Very excited and nervous, not sure what questions to ask or what to expect but looking forward to it! DH is being fantastic really looking after me (had bad case of always feeling sick. Just found out DH's brother's girlfriend is also pregnant about 6 weeks. They've been together a year, she really loves him but he has always had some doubts. The pregnancy wasnt planned but obviously now they are going to move into togehter and raise the baby together. Really happy for them, but feel a bit weird as both our babies will be due a month apart. Im nervous about our pregnancy enough and now I feel bad that I have such strange feelings about their pregnancy. Is it normal not to feel really happy and overjoyed for them?

don't really unserstand the problem..congrats on your pregnancy

I think it is just hormones, and perhaps competitiveness (however unintentional) just kicking in. I am sure it will be fine and just try to look at it as someone to share things with and who wont get bored of pregnancy and baby talk

hormones are a womans worst enemy!
it will get easier, concentrate on your pregnancy and keeping yourself relaxed and well.

Hi Zany
My SIL is due 2 weeks before me. I felt a bit "weird" when I first found out as I was worried that there would be comparisons re bump size, how coping etc but it has been absolutely fine, you tend to be wrapped up in your own pregnancy. First scan is fab - enjoy!

my boyfriends brother is having a baby too. they found out about 6 weeksafter us. i was gutted as i know its selfish but ours wont be the baby of the family. luckily they live in ireland (were all dp's family are)and will be the baby to our family.
i felt more happier when i found we were having a girl and they are having a boy. its horrible feeling like that. but it was also nice seeing her knowing were going through same things together,

My sister is 6 weeks behind me and I have to admit to feeling really weird when I found out. It took me a while to conceive, then had a miscarriage, so when she fell pregnant the first month of trying I felt a bit miffed. It's unleashed some long-forgotten feelings of sibling rivalry in me which I've done my best to suppress because I don't want to be childish or immature. I can't offer any advice to be honest and I'm pretty ashamed of the way I feel. Everyone keeps raving about how thrilled I must be to be pregnant at the same time as her, but to be honest it hasn't brought us any closer together, possibly because we live in different countries. At every scan, hers and mine, I was also petrified that there'd be a problem with one of our babies, and that it would make it extra painful to be having a "parallel" pregnancy with such a close family member if something went wrong.

Thanks for your words of wisdom, am feeling alot better about it. I think I have got over the initial shock. I still think it is a bit weird but Im too excited about our own pregnancy to get overly hang up about it. I just hope both babies are healthy. Thanks again for your comments and reassuarances.

He's not pregnant.

Men can't be pregnant.

His girlfriend is pregnant.

my SIL (DH Sis) and I had babies three days apart nearly three years ago and we are now both pregnant again (due dates are 12 days apart). On the whole its a good experience and can be great fun going through it together, esp first time. Our first borns love each other to bits so its worth the odd difficulty.

Just concentrate on your own pregnancy and enjoy it. Try not to get involed with any competitivness and whatever you do don't discuss names!!

my sil & i had boys a month apart & they absolutely adore each other - cousins are great .

My sis and I have kids 10 weeks apart...they are now 2 years old and get on famously...its great!!! but I do remember being a little bit cheesed off when she announced she was pregnant after me as this was our first and her third and i just thought she was stealing my lime light.....that feeling didnt last long as i was able to talk to her constantly and ask for advice ....without the risk of boring her to death...it actually brought us closer together so try not to be too upset and enjoy the ride!