NC and posting here rather than AIBU - don't mind if people tell me I'm being unreasonable, would rather not be flamed though.
Summary: covering midwife was horrible. Should I complain?
Background:
I'm about half way through my first pregnancy. I've had problems with antenatal depression and anxiety and been signed off work for a few weeks. Basically I couldn't stop crying and I work in a customer-facing role, so got sent home. I've also been having problems with exhaustion, brain fog sand breathlessness. The exhaustion got worse as I went from first trimester to second. I know brain fog is a "normal" aspect of pregnancy but I've made mistake after mistake at work, and can't really cope in my personal life either. Going to the supermarket is now really stressful because I have to check over and over that I have everything I need. It's not OCD, it's that if I only check once then I will definitely forget most of what I need. The breathlessness has been awful. If I walk up a single flight of stairs I have to sit down for a minute or two to get my breath back. 6 months ago I ran a half-marathon in less than 2 hours. Now I can't keep up with most people walking.
The appointment:
I booked a mw appointment. I wanted to talk about mood (had had a really difficult few days) and ask for bloods to be done because I was sure that what I was feeling wasn't right for a healthy 22 weeks. Usual midwife is lovely and had been very clear I should feel free to call on her any time (well, within working hours, but you know)
It was a different midwife to normal. She got my notes out, and when she saw anxiety written in them said "Anxiety!" and tutted and rolled her eyes at me. I'm not making it up. At this point I decided not to try to talk to her about the mood stuff.
I explained that I had hoped to get bloods done because I thought I might have some sort of vitamin deficiency. She looked at me and said "You're not anaemic." She didn't ask me at any point what symptoms I might have been experiencing. She did do the bloods though and told me that if there was anything out of the ordinary she would call me, but there wouldn't be, and that I definitely didn't need to ring her. (I hadn't asked if I did)
She then launched into a very long spiel about vaccinations and why I should have them. She seemed very surprised when I managed to get a word in edgeways and point out that I am pro-vaccine and have always taken them up when offered.
She then told me, a propos of nothing, that "if you think the first half of pregnancy was bad, you're going to get a shock in the second half. The skin on your belly is going to be stretched so tight that I could just do this (she lightly ran a finger over the back of hand) and it'll sting you."
I know that sounds like some cartoon-baddy kind of behaviour but that is honestly what she did/said. I went home after she'd finished with me and cried. I don't know what she was trying to achieve. Obviously I have depression/anxiety in my notes and it felt like she thought that that meant I was a stupid fantasist.
Since then:
I've seen my usual midwife. She said that the cut-off for low iron was 10.5, mine had been 10.7 so the other midwife had marked it as normal and filed it. However, usual midwife saw that I'd been at nearly 15 in my first lot of bloods, that she herself would "feel like death" at 10.7, and has prescribed iron supplements.
Question:
Should I make some kind of complaint/report about the other midwife? Would that be unreasonable?