Just not enjoying my pregnancy

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Hi everyone. Im having a really tough time. Its my 1st pregnancy and if its not one thing its another. I had fairly bad sickness up until week 12ish vomiting every day, then I had a string of migranes, and today I fainted at work. I feel as if ive become useless. Im 15 weeks now.

Dont get me wrong, I want this baby and cant wait to be a mum. I guess what im after is some kind of reassurance. Other people seem to love being pregnant, am I the only one whos not enjoying it that much?

You're not the only one at all. Pregnancy affects everyone differently. I'm 31 weeks with my first and I feel like I'm failing compared to peers who are also pregnant. I too suffered with sickness. I'm so grateful to be pregnant but I can't say I enjoy it overly. So many changes are happening be kind to yourself and try not to compare to others.

Keep your chin up OP. It's really hard growing a human! I didn't enjoy my pregnancy much at all but found things got better at 16/18 weeks only for it to get worse again when I got to the final trimester Try to enjoy putting your feet up a bit and get lots of rest.

It does tend to pick up for most people around 15-16 weeks so you should hopefully be coming out of the worst soon! I had bad morning sickness and really low blood pressure and fainting spells up till 15 weeks and it improved quite rapidly. By week 16 I just didn’t feel sick anymore and could start eating again as I’d gone off so many foods!

Fingers crossed the same thing happens for you! I remember thinking around week 14 that I couldn’t imagine it ending and feeling better but you come out of it quite quickly. I think it’s once the placenta takes over or something

You are not alone. This is my second pregnancy. I hated my first & I’m hating this one too. I’ll never ever be doing this again!

It’s ok, for some people pregnancy is not a walk in the park, glowing experience. And it doesn’t mean you aren’t grateful nor make you a bad person. It just sucks all the enjoyment out of life. It’s hard to love feeling poorly 24/7! I have HG & I’m so fed up of sickness I cry pretty much everyday. I long to feel normal!

That said, I’m feeling better than I was in the first trimester & I hope it continues. By 20ish weeks last time, I suddenly felt much better.. I’m 16 weeks tomorrow.. trying to keep hope! Hopefully it’ll be the same for you too!

Sending love, pregnancy isn’t easy but you will get there & it’s so so worth it in the end. I just keep thinking by Christmas, it’ll only by 3 months left and you can start thinking about maternity leave etc! And it’ll be Christmas before we know it!

Try not to worry. This whole glowing, glorious pregnancy thing is a myth in my opinion! I feel like crap and have done since 5 weeks! I’m almost there now and can not wait to get this baby out of here. I’ve had HG, migraines, raised blood sugars, raised blood pressure, aches, pains, insomnia followed by incurable tiredness, anaemia and am now looking at extra growth scans. But, it is all worth it! I’ve done it before, it’s been shit every time but it’s bloody worth it.
Don’t feel you have to pretend. Pregnancy isn’t great for everyone. Be honest, tell people you’re tired and uncomfortable but happy. I mainly raise my eyes and tell people I’m literally counting the days to DDay

I think it's more common than people realise not to enjoy pregnancy. I'm 33 weeks with my second and just feel like I'm literally having the life sucked out of me. I thought the first one was bad, and my pregnancies are low risk with no complications. Time is dragging so slowly, everyday I wake up dreading the day ahead

I'm 31 weeks pregnant with my third baby and have hated being pregnant every time. Some people just don't enjoy it and those who love it and miss their bump afterwards are people I simply can't relate to.

There is no correlation between how much you like being pregnant and how much you will love your child though. I adore my children, I think the are brilliant, I just prefer them on the outside! So don't worry, it's totally normal.