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DH says it's because people care, however, I am being driven insane by messages!! I've had 24 messages from people today asking if there is any news. I'm not even due until Thursday. I probably sound miserable but I'm not in any rush to get this baby out and it's just stressing me out now. I know if I stop replying people will just assume I'm in labour anyway.

Also, the amount of people who have messaged saying they can't wait to see a picture is annoying me too. I don't think I even want to send pictures to people. I'm not on social media so I don't know if this contributes. It's just getting to me that this is an assumption.

Is this just hormones and pretty standard or AIBU? :(

I'd message all the usual messages and say "I know everyone is excited but I promise we will message when there's news" then tell them when they're good and ready. The photo thing is hard, people are excited to see your baby but realistically oyi wouldn't want them to all visit immediately. Do you plan on not letting anyone have one until thry visit i person?

I think it's because I'm one of the first to have children so it's just a new thing to most of my friends. We weren't planning to send pictures to anyone and people can just see the baby when they see us, even if that's weeks later. Tbh we weren't planning to tell people as soon as baby is here anyway as we wanted a few days to ourselves. Funnily enough, our parents are fine with this but friends find it really odd. Also, our mums have old, basic phones that don't accept photos so I don't really want everyone to have a picture before they have seen the baby either. Ahh it's so stressful! I wish I lied about my due date now!

I put my phone on airplane mode as I was 2 weeks late and people were driving me absolutely insane.

That's my worry! I'm not even at my due date yet and it's started, let alone if I go overdue! I may have to do the same...

Well I'm a bit with your friends Re the photos. I didn't expe t a "look what just got out of my uterus" pic but once parents had visited within the first day or so, we all sent a photo of the new baby to friends. With life and distance, it was months before we got to meet up and see some of the babies, it was nice to share their newness.
But your baby so just tell them you don't want them having a picture of your child and if thry want to see her theyll have to visit

Hmm I guess I'll see how I feel afterwards. I don't know if it's just the messages clouding my judgement...

Can see how that would drive you potty OP. There isn't a wrong answer on what you do telling them, photos etc, just remember that if you expect your friends to care about them, there has to be some give and take. Good luck x

Do what ever you want regarding photos. Your baby, your choice.

I can sympathise with the messages. Thankfully I don't have many friends so haven't had many messages. I am due tomorrow and it's only really 2 friends who seem to constantly ask. I've told them so many times that I'll tell them once baby is born and that I won't be telling them if I get any signs/symptoms or go into labour.
So it's silly them asking. They don't get the hint if I'm polite but I can't be rude to them I know they aren't doing it to be nasty or frustrate me etc. I really wish I could be rude though!

I'm anticipating baby being evicted right at the end so it's going to be a long 2 weeks of frustration.
My parents don't even ask and neither do the rest of my family. Plus my other close friends haven't, they've just sent some sporadic "hope you are coping OK and let us know if you need anything" messages. Which are perfectly fine.

Direct them here OP www.haveyouhadthatbabyyet.com/
it’s excitement but it can be frustrating

Thank you. I've been polite and responded nicely every time. I don't think any of them would actually know how annoying I am finding it as I haven't let on. That's why I posted on here... to vent really. I haven't actually mentioned no pictures to anyone either so I can always change my mind and noone in real life would have any idea. I've calmed down now anyway. It was just so many messages today that I felt overwhelmed by it all!