I feel like my boyfriend is so selfish

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I'm 20 weeks pregnant and having a difficult time with my partner. We've been together 3 years (on and off) have always had arguments and what not but he seemed to have changed ALOT before I fell pregnant! Recently I feel like everything is about him, I've not had the best pregnancy to start with I'm struggling to say the least! Basically he called in sick from work and I told him to visit the dr's as I didn't want to be catching any horrible viruses when I'm pregnant. He told me that he went and swore on the baby's life. Something just wasn't adding up about it all. The fact he had an infection but no antibiotics so the truth finally came out he didn't go! I am so angry why he would need to lie about that! I feel like recently if I'm not feeling good and cancel plans he's annoyed at me and doesn't take my feelings into consideration. I've bought everything more or less for the baby out of a savings account he's contributed to but he has not took part in any of it, he didn't want to look at the pram. Didn't want to "crease the clothes" I've bought by looking at them. I'm just heart broken really, he's not what I thought he would of been! Hes promised time and time again he is going to change but it's come down to this.

I don't know where I'm supposed to go from here, we have a scan on Tuesday which I don't even think he's planning to show up to as his last text message was that he's not speaking to me for a couple of months when I've not done anything wrong!

Could people please give me their advice

He sounds very immature. Do you live together? If so I would seriously start making and to manage by yourself when this baby comes.

Making plans*

He's told you that he's not going to speak to you for a couple of months...? To be blunt, OP, but run... You don't need his drama in your life right now. I appreciate that would be complicated in its own way with baby, but I think you sound better off without him.

I'm still living with my parents, I'm so scared this is my first baby and I'm only 20. I don't want to live alone, but I don't know how much more stress I can deal with

He’s an absolute loser. Are your parents supportive?

Basically he called in sick from work and I told him to visit the dr's as I didn't want to be catching any horrible viruses when I'm pregnant.

This is a ridiculous thing to have asked him to do. You don’t get antibiotics for viruses.

However, he shouldn’t have lied and said he’d been. He sounds very immature if he’s saying he won’t talk to you for months. You’re best making plans to be a single mum.

I asked him to go to the docs as I wasn't sure what was wrong, he could of had a chest infection which if I caught it would really run me down and put the baby at risk as I am severely asthmatic. My parents are supportive but not really wanting me to live at home because my stepdad works from home everyday. They would never kick me out but I just feel terrible for it.

He’s doing that man thing of sticking his head in the sand because he’s not emotionally mature enough to handle the pregnancy and impending fatherhood. I take it the pregnancy was unplanned? I don’t know if this will be the end of your relationship. Sorry OP but if a man thinks he can continue to live life as before when a child comes along he’s in for a bit of a shock. He can no longer be selfish or thoughtless he will have a baby’s needs to put before his own. If he doesn’t show up for the next appointment I’d be sad but you are strong and whatever happens you will get through this. It’s good your family are there for you. All the best

Anyone you come into contact with on a daily basis could have a chest infection. You need to chill out or the next few months will be a very fraught time

This 'man' sounds like an absolute child. You're better on your own