Unmarried Asian girl

[Jasmine007]

I’m a 37 year old British Asian(Indian), who is currently 6 weeks pregnant with my white boyfriend who my parents don’t know about , because my family would not approve, because he already has 2 kids with 2 different women so my parents would disown me if they found out. I really want the baby as been with my boyfriend 2years now who adores me and is going to support me through this. He is a good dad as he sees the other 2 children every week and pays for them both.

I previously had 2 terminations in past with other ex’s, feel like I cannot do it again and want this baby, but my parents will disown me They have done alot for me , supported me financially and expect me to marry someone different to who I love. I’m in despair right now.

Please can I have advice.

Some people are being ridiculously harsh here and I dont know why. The 2 terminations has very little to do with this situation, those were decisions you made in the past.

You have a partner that supports you which is fantastic. Thats already more than most.

So the only issue here is the parents. Youve got to make a tough decision. It may come down to baby or parents. Which one?

OP can you support yourself?

I'm British Indian, had my DD early twenties, my parents tried to force marriage but I refused (still unmarried), they then tried to persuade me to have an abortion. They came round as soon as DD was born, and are VERY close. DD (15) calls my DM daily on her walk home from school. I now live with my DP (white) my DPs love him (and again trying to persuade me to get married!).

If you want DC have the baby, but just I think you need to consider where you will live, support yourself, etc.

Good luck, feel free to PM me.

I will be living with my partner.

I couldn't give up this baby. Even though will miss my parents so much. Hopefully they will come round eventually.

Op I'm sure they will. Good luck and congratulations

They’ve got the whole of your pregnancy to get used to the idea.
Just try to relax and focus on moving in with your DP and preparing for the baby.

And finally I know I’m coming across as harsh but are/were you actively trying for a baby together- if not, then it’s not fair on your partner

Not fair on her partner? How have you come to that conclusion?

Congratulations, OP.

Hello and congratulations.
I am white and I am around Asian people so I know why you worry so much.
However you have to realize one thing. You're an adult. Grown woman. It's your life. You owe your parents respect but not doing everything as they wish for the rest of your life.
If they disown you, so be it. You need to do what will make you happy. If it means keeping the child, then be it.
I think it's wrong to get rid of it just coz of your parents.

Please whatever you decide to do, donut for yourself. What you want. Not what others want and expect.

We are looking to get married.

Bless you. Thank you

As for people who tried to have a dig at me for my previous terminations... I did use contraception and it failed, so don't be so quick to judge. Sometimes contraception does fail, if you even used your head to think!!