Overdue and fed up!!!

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I am currently 6 days overdue and so fed up. I know I am being unreasonable and snappy with everyone. (Especially all the people who were 'just so sure' he was going to be early)
Finding it hard to entertain my 3 year old DD because I have no energy, not much patience and cannot focus on playing. :( Used to take her out all the time but had to stop becsuse back pain too much.

The 'popped out any babies messages' yes that's literally what someone said to me... Are really p*ssing me off.

I feel so miserable and grumpy at everything. This waiting period is so frustrating. Had midwife appt yesterday hoping she'd be able to give me a sweep but I wasn't even dilated so couldnt

I hear ya! 10 days here. 2 unsuccessful sweeps. CBA to do anything. So disappointed every day I wake up and nothing feels different.

I have started sending this link to a select few of the more persistent messagers: haveyouhadthatbabyyet.com/

I feel ya mamas!! Hold on there! I’m 5 days overdue with my first & feel the same every day when I wake up as I imagine going into labour during the night! I don’t get a sweep until Sunday where I’m 41 weeks so if he’s he’s not arrived by then hopefully that works!

As much as I know people are only trying to be nice I find the messages asking if there’s an updates a lot of pressure. People making me feel bad for being overdue! ‘Oh he’s taking his time’. That how it feels anyway like they feel sorry for me! Trust me I want him here too I’m aching!!! I was feeling grumpy and irritable last night after a string of messages came through so I had a nice bath. I turned off the light, lit some candles, relaxing music on my phone and loads of bubbles oh and a face mask! As I sat there all whale like in the bath I watched my bump squirming and moving from side to side in the dimmed light as my boy had a little wiggle and it kind of brought me back to me again and I just keep thinking slow down relax and let him come when he’s ready. Give it a try if you feel comfortable enough. Yeh husband had to come as hoist me out mind, he could of done with a 2nd pair of hands I think hahahahah!!! Good luck 😘😘 xxx

Due dates in France are calculated at 42 weeks so if you lived there, your due date would be tomorrow.

What I'm saying is that try to get the overdue thought pattern out of your mind. It's counter intuitive. Due dates are guesses, babies come when they come and feeling stressed and fed up about it might be preventing your baby from coming spontaneously. Your body is sending stress hormones around the body which is signalling to your baby that he or she should stay out for now as its scary outside.

I gave birth at 41 weeks and the day before was the day that I truly let go of the fed upness. Whether it's related or not I don't know but I got some jobs done, got my nails done and really tried to enjoy my maternity leave before the baby came and took up all my time. Binge watch boxsets and do some yoga. Whatever will get you relaxed and happy!

I think I would feel different if I could actually do stuff but I feel so stuck even a 10 minute walk to the shop is proving difficult.
I have been trying to relax with baths etc but not necessarily helped yet.

The funny thing is I never expect him to arrive on his due date or early but so many people were keeping on that it does get your back up a bit. I had the full expectation that he'd arrive 'late' so to speak. I appreciate it is just an estimate and I feel pretty chill about it in that respect I'm just fed up of being so useless and not being able to do anything or entertain my daughter. As much as I'd love to lie on the sofa and watch box sets can't really do that with her around!

I am in UK so the rules are slightly different. I will be induced next friday if nothing happens by then. I've always taken that as my 'final' date and he'll be then at least.

I'm in the UK too, it was just an example of the fact due dates are not an exact science. This time I've purposefully not told anyone my due date so they can't start up with the 'overdue' bollocks and stress me up.

In terms of induction, you don't have to be induced at all. They recommend it at 42 weeks but babies can be born after. The risk is failing of the placenta after that however, they can check you and the babies health and you might want to decide to give it another 24 hours, or another 48 if you and the baby are healthy and not at any enhanced risk.

Up to you, it doesn't sound like you want to be pregnant any longer than strictly necessary so you could always ask to be induced earlier if you wanted x

Sorry my mistake I assumed you might be in different country 🙈 Yes I tried to be vague about it and just stated September when we announced it on social media then to some family members just said end of September. The only people who knew the exact date are my mum who is providing childcare for DD and my sis/BIL who are playing taxi service.
I think some people(my dad and step mum ) have got it in their head September means the very start and in the middle of August said to me 'oh well you've only got 2 weeks left haven't you'... I corrected them and then 2 weeks later got a phonecall asking if I'd had any 'twinges' etc... Again corrected saying due date not for another few weeks at least. It's so hard!!! I know people are excited but I wish they'd at least ask how I was not just when's baby here then. I don't think they always realise how it makes you feel to be continually asked!

I understand re induction, I think if I wasn't feeling so useless I wouldn't mind waiting longer and holding off with medical intervention as I've heard induction can be very hard. I know our hospital are very good and will get you in every day for monitoring if you don't want to be induced. At this point I feel like I will take them up on it for friday, though hoping it happens naturally before that!

I feel like I'm chilled but maybe I'm not 😅 and won't until it's officially booked in. That's what happened with my daughter

Great new! JuSt been to the toilet and had a show so feeling very excited that labor is imminent 😅

Eek! Everything crossed for you, how exciting!