Please help - Struggling with hormones and feeling so down/cross/tearful

[flissity]

Can anyone else please relate to me?
5 weeks pregnant.

Feel tearful, so stressed and impatient with DH, feel so 'not myself' feel almost depressed. But I am hoping this is hormones. I just don't remember feeling like this last time?
Obviously I am so pleased to be pregnant, but I feel like I've lost all interest in things I usually love doing. I don't feel sick yet, am definitely tired which doesn't help.

Please tell me this will pass!!

@flissity I'm so sorry you are struggling but please be reassured that you are not alone!! I am 5 weeks pregnant as well and have been all over the place especially since I have had some bleeding. Early pregnancy is in my opinion the most difficult part, so much is changing and uncertain with nothing to see or feel. Try and do something lovely for yourself however small, you deserve it! Sending love x

Mystie - thank you so much that means a lot!

I have also had some bleeding (you may have seen my other post)
Tomorrow I have to ring the dr's to ge results from 48hr HCG blood test. So I Guess that doesn't help.

Your'e right about it being early, there is nothing to see, I don't feel sick, can't talk about it openly! So its an odd few weeks.

Hope you are more 'up than down' today :)

@flissity I'm putting my feet up today watching Friends to take my mind off it! I didn't know that you've been bleeding hopefully we will both be in the same boat and all will be well have you got a scan booked? I'm also 43 which makes me even more concerned as I know my chances of MC are a lot higher! Haven't had a baby for 12 years (I have 3 - 18,12 and 11) so feel like this is the first time all over again! Is this your first?

No it’s my third! Similar to you. Have 2 girls 10 and 7, so it’s def been a while ! I’m 36, so a bit older than when I had my last. It took just 3 months to conceive, so feel very lucky. I’d had the mirena coil in for years.

Have just driven home from work and the dr called me with Hcg results. Monday’s was 594 and Wednesday’s was 1500 (and something) so feeling very relieved.
Going to sit down and have some crumpets until school run time!

@flissity that's great news about your hcg levels!!! Well deserved crumpets, so happy for you!

I had the Mirena coil as well for 10 years! Was taken out last November 5 months after I met my current partner although we were still being careful and I assumed I wouldn't be able to fall pregnant at my age! I was wrong lol, we fell pregnant in February but decided to have a termination at 10 weeks because we didn't feel ready (my parter is 17 years younger than me which was one of my big worries). Anyway long story short I'm pregnant again, obviously haha and we definitely want to go through with this pregnancy. We've been together a lot longer and can't really afford to wait too long at my age so fingers crossed all will be well!

When are you planning on telling your girls? We're not telling anyone until 12 weeks which is going to be so hard but I think it goes so much slower when everyone is asking you about it constantly!

I will definitely leave it quite a while before we tell the world. I’m in no hurry really.

More similarities! This is my Husbands first and my third. I was married before.
He is 10 years younger than me, I knew when we met that he definitely wanted children. I thought ‘omg I’ll have to start again!!’ But happy to really.

You must have mega healthy eggs then!! Do you worry about the age gap? I know ours isn’t as much, but when we met and he was 24 (me 34) most other 24yr olds were certainly not ideal to settle down with!! But you can’t judge someone on their age.

@flissity oh wow how funny that we've both got younger partners! My OH is 26 but I would definitely say he is the mature one in the relationship when we first met he was adamant that he didn't want kids but that changed pretty quickly. I've always said never say never as I love being a mum and don't work so have plenty of time to fill! This will definitely be the last though and thankfully my OH's family are super supportive and we get on so well so I'll have lots of help. Do you think you'll have more that one with your new husband? X

@flissity I feel exactly the same. 6 weeks pregnant and just keep sobbing without being able to explain why! I do t have any advice to make it better but you are definitely not alone.

Thanks - it HAS to be the hormones. I guess at least we know that it does drop off at some point. I am shattered tonight as well. And have 2 kids clubs this eve and won’t be home til 8 😫

@Mystie any more (after this) really depends on housing!! We love where we live. Can squeeze this one in, we have lots of downstairs space but not as much upstairs. But a 4th child would def mean a move!
Let me have this one first and I may say ‘that’s it for me’ 🤣 I know my DH mum will be over the moon. (So will mine, by MIL has hinted many times!) Funny as she’s only 13 yrs older than me !

@flissity haha I know isn't it great being close in age to your MIL! We are really close and have so many reference points, I feel very lucky as my own mum is crap!!

Oh no :( to your mum being crap!

I’m home from all the kids clubs, hurray!!

So when will you have your booking in appointment? Mine is 14oct. I got a call from surgery today asking me if I wanted to book flu vaccine too! So got that the same day.

To be honest this still seems all weird!

@flissity I haven't told my GP I'm pregnant yet, probably should but would rather see a HB first. Had all the blood tests for everything back in Feb so know that they are all fine so hopefully a few more weeks without them knowing will be ok. Only thing I'm worried about is getting DVT on my leg I've had 3 thrombilitis clots in the last 2 years and I know that my chances of getting another clot are a lot greater during pregnancy but pretty sure they'll refer me to DVT clinic to be monitored once I let them know!

Glad you're back from clubs, put your feet up and chill!

My sister (who is single and younger than me) has just messaged me begging me to go out drinking with her tomorrow night she doesn't know I'm pregnant and I really don't know how the hell im going to get out of it without her being suspicious as I'm almost always up for a drink! Any tips???

No idea.... I have friends round for a curry tomorrow night, same issue... and I don’t even have the excuse of driving!! It’s so tricky. Could use the old ‘I’m on antibiotics’ line 🤔

@flissity problem solved.. turns out she had a date lined up and only wanted me to babysit! (That'll teach me for not opening the complete WhatsApp message!) spent the last hour coming up with a million different lies lol

@flissity woke up to a very red toilet this morning, not looking good still no pain though so trying to stay hopeful but I've just got a feeling that this isn't going to work out. Can't do anything until the 7 October except wait it out, keep your fingers crossed for me x

Oh no.... must have been shocking to see that :(
Let’s hope you don’t get any more and it’s just ‘one of those things’

Such a worrying time!!