What a lovely compliment thank you 😊 yes, starting with gratefulness is such a good way to change your perspective, I did the same in the past. My crohns is bad atm, it has taken a lot from me, but I'll be damned if it's gonna take me down lol, gotta keep getting back up :) hopefully starting some biologics soon, so fingers crossed fresh start!
I struggled with feeling like I was constantly asking for help/advice about everything, a lot of women I have encountered have had the attitude "if you don't have kids you don't know", and I always knew that was crap, no one has a switch, but if you trust yourself a little and try not to overthink everything all the time (goals!), you'll be fine, better than fine!
Everyone has the style that fits them best, all I heard was about how routine is key. But our son only came home on his due date, so I had a whole lot of snuggling to catch up on, time to bond. And so I felt like that should put me into the baby wearer camp, but I am the clumsiest person, so that idea filled me with terror. So I used the pram when I wanted to put him down, picked him up when I felt like he wanted me too and when I wanted to, and ignored anything that didn't make sense to our life at the time. You pick up on what they might want, and there are tough days, tiredness and hormones etc, but ultimately you are a little family who spends so much time together you can narrow down what he/she wants. And yes there are days when you don't have confidence so you ask for help, but just ignore people who assume things and ask questions like "are you doing this?"
If we are lucky enough to fluke another Bubba, I'm telling myself, you got this. Even when I feel like I don't :) its amazing, even the tough bits (looking back lol)