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Just found out I'm pregnant with twins...help!

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Beatrice900 · 21/09/2019 18:30

Hi,
I've just found out I'm pregnant with twins. I already have a 4 year old and a 2 year old and this was meant to be our third and last baby 😬

I'm looking for some positives of having twins and hopefully some stories of twin pregnancies not being as bad as google is telling me!? I'm feeling incredibly sick and terrified at the moment!

Thanks

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PaulHollywoodsSexGut · 21/09/2019 18:34

Congrats! You may also wish to post on “larger families”

I’m watching this with interest as we are discussing number 4 and I’m utterly convinced we’d end up with 2 in there.

Congrats again x

Beatrice900 · 21/09/2019 18:41

Thank you, have posted there too x

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Squiff70 · 21/09/2019 18:48

I'm also pregnant with twins. It's incredibly scary isn't it? close friend of mine has 4 month old twins and honest, they're not that scary - the hardest bit is when they're both crying at the same time but they don't cry forever, as you know already with your two children. It'll be incredibly hard for you, but doable. Have you got the support of friends and family around you?

DamnitCharlie · 21/09/2019 19:36

Congratulations! I'd love to have twins. I think you'll have to do a lot of research into giving birth and what your options are but then you get to have 2 babies at once! From what I've heard keeping to a routine helps and I imagine a good double buggy and a good baby carrier for twins will help. They will cry at the same time but also entertain each other!

Bubblebanana76 · 21/09/2019 19:46

I have 10 month old twin boys and a 5 yr old.They are amazing little humans, it was hard the first few months but you learn quickly how to adapt, my DH works long hrs and I had to do everything alone!! Not many offers of help, I am proud I managed to do it all alone!
Best advise I can give is to get them into a routine!! My boys have a great routine and are in bed at 6pm every night!
Enjoy them little babies when they get here they are a blessing

PowerslidePanda · 21/09/2019 20:07

Congratulations!

Pregnancy-wise, I read some scary stuff too - it seems that pretty much every complication you can think of is more likely with multiples! However, I'm now 31 weeks and it's been very straight-forward so far (and symptoms-wise, easier than it was with my singleton!)

MrsEG · 21/09/2019 20:56

Congratulations! I am 18 weeks with twins, they’re my first though! My recommendation would be to sign up to TAMBA they are fabulous. We attended a workshop last week, it was only £10 per person and facilitated by twin mums, one of whom had older children. They gave out so much practical advice - I feel much more relaxed about it all now!!

Ginmonkey84 · 22/09/2019 09:05

Congratulations! I had twins in 2013 and can honestly say as much as it’s a little bit daunting having two babies the key is organisation and routine! And stick to it, it really does make a world of difference. Having twins is really amazing. Do you know what your twins are? My two were DCDA twins and can honestly say I had hardly any issues at all and went to 38 weeks with no sign of them coming out, had an elective section due to my little girl being breech. My pregnancy was relatively easy too. X

Beatrice900 · 22/09/2019 10:01

Thanks all, that's reassuring. I'm just a bit worried about routines etc as I have breastfed all my other babies on demand and they have napped as and when they have wanted. Neither of my others would have been ok in a routine, I tried and they just weren't ok with it. I'm quite 'attachment parenting' and routines don't really sit so well with some of the bits etc.
Please don't think for a second that I'm insinuating that any of you have put a routine in place against your babies needs, I absolutely don't I'm just concerned as neither of my others would go into a routine and I'm a bit scared of trying it with two more!

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PowerslidePanda · 22/09/2019 10:21

Regarding routines - I should caveat this by saying that my twins haven't arrived yet, so I might not have any idea what I'm talking about! Grin But...

With my singleton, we didn't set out to create a routine - we found that she naturally established her own within a few months. We then tweaked it to suit us (for instance, she would be up a lot in the night but sleep most of the morning, so we started waking her a few minutes earlier than she'd normally wake each day until she was mostly sleeping at night instead). We plan to take the same approach with the twins, but from day 1 will try to get them doing the same things at the same time. So if one wakes up and is hungry, we'll wake and feed the other one too. We're hoping this will mean they still establish whatever routine they need (rather than one that we define), but kind of collaboratively?

As I say, this is all theoretical at the moment - I might be back on here in a few weeks saying that it didn't work! Grin

Teddybear45 · 22/09/2019 11:14

How pregnant are you? It’s not always a given that a twin pregnancy results in twins unfortunately hence why it’s considered high risk.

MuchTooTired · 22/09/2019 12:30

Congratulations, twins are awesome! Mine are now 19 months old, and whilst I did have a routine with them it was kind of dictated by them and I just followed mainly, so got lucky in that regard becuase they were very much in synch with each other.

My twin pregnancy was classed as high risk due to them being ivf twins, but in reality it wasn’t so bad. I was full term size by 28-30 weeks, it was bloody uncomfortable but my dd was parked up in my ribs from 20 weeks. I got pe and delivered them by surprise elcs at 36+5 and they weighed 6lbs 6 and 7lbs 3. No scbu time needed, out after 2 days.

Admittedly I don’t have any other children, but some positives to having twins off the top of my head are a ready made playmate the same age, watching them seek the other one out and the bond they have is incredible, newborn twins are nowhere near as bad as everyone told me during pregnancy (they made out I was going to DIE due to sleep depravation!), double cuddles, a weird almost instant bond with any other twin parent I’ve met, a ready made excuse for anything I forget or don’t want to do, and whilst they bring a hell of a lot of work and chaos to my life, it’s happy chaos and full of fun and laughter.

My life is a constant risk assessment for which tearaway fearless toddler is going to get hurt first, the laundry is vaguely under control, my standards have slipped dramatically and my bank balance is constantly under siege, but I’d love to have more kids so it can’t be all that bad. Someone once posted on mn with a quote of ‘all fed, nobody dead’ which amused me greatly and has become a motto for me in my head on the bad days when bedtime just can’t come quick enough!

Good luck!

speedyhedgehog · 22/09/2019 12:52

By the time my triplets were born in 2006 my firstborn was 6 weeks short of her 4th birthday and my second born was 2 1/2. We're all still here though, it was (and still is sometimes) a bit mad! Congratulations!

MrsEG · 22/09/2019 15:10

I’m so glad I posted on this thread as it’s so helpful hearing from other twin mums, especially with regards to being high-risk; I’ve been told pretty much since day one my chances of gestational diabetes, pre eclampsia, pre term labour etc are all increased so you can leave the consultant sometimes feeling petrified but it’s nice to hear so many people have gone through the pregnancy fine! I’ve also met 3 twin mums since becoming pregnant and the earliest any delivered was 34 weeks, the other two 36. So thanks to all for sharing!

pumkinspicetime · 22/09/2019 15:16

My twins didn't appear until almost week 36.
I waited until 11 weeks to get a routine, I should have started a lot sooner!
My pair did find their own routines before that but they weren't that similar so it didn't help.
I've had friends with twins who were much more baby led and would say that sleep was an issue for several years going down that route was that wouldn't have worked for me. They were okay with it though.

Taneve · 23/09/2019 13:44

Congratulations!! @Beatrice900 Flowers
I am also expecting twins. I am currently 19weeks due my 20wk scan next week. Hoping to find out gender Smile

It is daunting!! But my current ethos is "take 1 day at a time". I will be watching this post for tips. This will be my 2nd pregnancy. My 1st pregnancy I had a boy 10years ago.

Taneve · 23/09/2019 13:46

Congratulations to you too @Squiff70 Flowers

Squiff70 · 23/09/2019 14:37

Thank you @Taneve! Same to you! I'm 14+1 and we're hoping to find out the genders/sexes at the 20 week scan too!

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