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13 weeks and feel like I can’t go on

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Wingingthis · 19/09/2019 21:36

Currently 13 weeks pregnant with my second and I literally feel like I can’t cope another day. I still have nausea, horrendous heartburn, heart palpitations & the worst tiredness I’ve ever had in my life. I don’t remember it being this hard last time.
Also have an almost 2 year old to run around after & feel like I can’t look after her properly. I’m napping with her so the house is a state. We’re not going out on my days off just sitting indoors and she’s watching a ridiculous amount of cbeebies (something I’m really not proud of)
I also feel like this is impacting my work dramatically.
Not really sure why I’m posting this I’m just really struggling :(

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ppwonar · 19/09/2019 21:45

Have you been to GP? They will certainly be able to help with nausea and heartburn. What was your haemoglobin at booking, has it been checked? You could be anaemic with palpitations and fatigue.

I sympathise, pregnancy is tough. But definitely get an appointment and speak to the GP about all your symptoms.

Intheupsidedown · 19/09/2019 21:47

I was like you op. 2 year old stood by the bathroom door shouting "mummy sick" in the end I got put on anti sickness and signed off for 2 weeks so I would actually rest.

It is harder because you are trying to be mummy as well as growing another.

I must admit things picked up by about week 18.... then I hit week 29 and it's got hard again. Now on week 31 and Braxton hicks keep kicking in and I'm exhausted.

Have you got anyone who can take your little one out for a bit or help you at home just to see you through so you can get proper rest?

Tolleshunt · 19/09/2019 21:48

Oh you poor thing, it’s just awful. I look back in those days and shudder, and I didn’t have another child to look after.

Try and cut yourself some slack on things like telly time and housework, if you can. Fingers crossed the nausea at least should start easing very soon. I found acupuncture and the acupressure wrist bands excellent to keeping the sickness at bay. Have you tried them?

Intheupsidedown · 19/09/2019 22:04

Oh yes re the telly honestly dont worry. I could barely lift my head some days so peppa and you tube became babysitters.... admittedly the 2 year old now does the alphabet song with an American z but hey ho.... she learnt something!

Jollitwiglet · 20/09/2019 00:33

Go to your GP, they can at least help with the nausea and heartburn

Bol87 · 20/09/2019 10:22

Def see your GP! It could just be ‘normal’ pregnancy exhaustion but could also be anaemia. It’s astonishing how awful it can make you feel. Get a blood test just to double check!

Heartburn - get yourself some Zantac (ranitidine) from any supermarket or chemist. On day one, take 2x 75mg pills together. That should get on top of it. Then continue with 1x 75mg regularly. You can get these prescribed in 150mg tablets from your GP (I do, I take 3x per day)but they aren’t overly expensive so I found seeing if they’d help useful before bothering my doctor.

Nausea - it’s horrific. I feel your pain. The doc might give you some meds if it’s too much. Most are becoming more understanding of how debilitating it can be. Fingers crossed it will start to ease up soon. I have HG and on a concoction of meds to stop the vomiting. I’m 14 weeks now & I’m seeing some light. The nausea is still pretty horrible but it’s suddenly reduced to a level that I can get up, shower & play gently with my daughter.

I have a two year old and I can fully relate how your feeling. I have cried buckets over the ‘terrible’ mum I’ve been over the last couple months. She’s watched more CBeebies than I can bear to think about & eaten most fish fingers as it’s the only food she likes that didn’t make me throw up. I’ve not been able to join her & my other half doing fun trips at the weekend & it’s made me so sad.

But, as I’m feeling a tiny fraction better the last few days, I can see with a more rational head on that she’s fine & hasn’t been ruined for life! She still loves playing with her toys, still loves having books read to her, will still eat other foods at nursery so I’ve not totally killed her eating habits!

Sending a big hug & support. It’s a really difficult time. But it’s not forever. There are meds that can help if you need them, please do talk to your doctor!

123456kent · 20/09/2019 16:36

Total sympathies from me too, in the same position, except 9 weeks not 13. My nearly 2 year old is being looked after by grandparents/nursery/daddy/or Mr Tumble, depending on what day of the week it is. I’m useless. Today has been my worst day - and the house looks a wreck, as do I. Her teeth haven’t been cleaned (mine have). I feel at the end of my tether with nausea!
I’m sure this short period will do them no harm.... and I’m sure she’ll get more neglected when the baby arrives :-(

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