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Work Life when pregnant - RANT

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anonnancy · 19/09/2019 14:29

ARGH, Work colleagues!!!!!

I feel like I'm not allowed to say anything negative about being pregnant at all and should be bright eyed and bushy tailed at every moment of the working day.

"How are you feeling today?" - well, to be honest, my back is absolutely KILLING ME. I feel like I need wringing out like a sponge. I'm tired. I'm hot and sweaty. And on top of that I feel like I'm coming down with a cold which is just what I need... Grin !!!

"Oh well get used to it love, you'll be feeling a lot worse for a long time to come! you just have to put your big girl pants on a deal with it! you're not the only woman to have been pregnant and have a baby you know!"

.....

It's honestly driving me mad. I work with majority women aged 50+ who probably can't even remember what it was like to be pregnant as it is such a distant memory for them!

I'm sick of all of these comments. They aren't helpful and make me feel more like a bag of crap than I already do. I just wish people would stop asking me how I am so I can just get on with things. If you don't want the honest answer then don't bloody ask me how i am!

I feel so fed up. This has been a really tough pregnancy (first pregnancy), and TBH with how it has been, I have been put off having any more children after this little dude is born.

I've had terrible morning sickness up until around 18 weeks, with still the odd day creeping up on me now at 24 weeks. I've had back problems since before pregnancy, but pregnancy seems to have bought them on again with a vengeance! my lower back, ribs and hips are painful/aching all the time. I'm not sleeping well because pre-pregnancy i was a tummy-sleeper (oh how i miss sleeping on my tummy!), and I just feel like utter rubbish most of the time.

I have contemplated asking my GP to sign me off for a couple of weeks because i just feel so miserable, but really not sure what that would actually achieve as i won't feel any better at home than i do at work anyway. I'll just be moping around the house rather than moping around at work! And i don't really want to leave my colleague counter-part in the lurch with extra work.

Luckily my line manager is so lovely (she is more my age) and has a 16 m/o little boy so can relate to how i'm currently feeling and is so supportive so feel really lucky in that respect.

Anyone else been through this at work? How did you get through the last couple of months without strangling your colleagues? Lol! I know i should probably just ignore the comments but its soooo hard when i'm so hormonal and want to just rip their heads off and shite down their necks when they make snippy little comments like they have been doing!

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Gettingonabitnow · 19/09/2019 17:21

Yeah, it’s shit, literally everything you say gets a retort. To be honest now I just say everything is great, I’m fine, baby is fine ‘not long to go now hahaha’ that kind of crap. Then I go and eat something to cheers myself up.

WispaGoldsshouldcomeinmultipac · 19/09/2019 17:29

OP you forget - once you're preggers you're public property 😂
I hate it too - 32 weeks here and I've been sick since day 1. It took me being hospitalised for me to feel like I was being taken seriously.
Just smile and wave. Set yourself goals - "If I manage not to imagine stabbing Karen in the head for the next hour I'll have a biccie with my cuppa". Works for me...

Preggosaurus9 · 19/09/2019 17:32

They don't want the truth, they want you to nod and smile while they reminisce at you, offer dodgy advice, have a rant about how lucky pregnant women are these days, have a rant about breast vs bottle, tell you you're too big/too small etc.

As pp says smile and wave, do not engage, keep it all to yourself, they're random strangers you work with not your best mate that you've chosen to talk to! And look forward to mat leave!

Preggosaurus9 · 19/09/2019 17:33

Oh and if they start in with the birth horror stories tell them to naff off. Can't stand that shit!

Newyearsameoldshit · 19/09/2019 17:42

I think the answer is being selective with who you speak truthfully with, sadly - if work colleagues get on your nerves just smile and say you're fine.
Save the real chat for understanding friends who won't make you feel worse!

WispaGoldsshouldcomeinmultipac · 19/09/2019 18:03

😂😂 Oh god the horror stories!!!

I've shocked mine into submission - was upfront about plans to homebirth, use reusable nappies and breast feed. I actually had a convo that went
"What brand of bottle are you planning on using?"
"Boob."
"Oh, Is that new? I've not seen that in Boots."

🤔

😂😂 you'll crack and see the hilarity soon - just remember, stapling post its with "F Off" on Karen's forehead (whilst theraputic) is messy and makes paperwork.

theatrenerd31 · 19/09/2019 23:39

I had HG and severe SPD, I was on crutches and ended up with a lot of time off sick. Had many, many comments about how pregnancy isn't an illness, colleague was at her desk while in labour with her third, and sometimes other colleague's pelvis hurts too when she's been sat all day. I genuinely think women seem to be worse for it, it's like a competitive "who did pregnancy best" thing. The men on our team were much nicer about it.

Blueeyedblondie · 21/09/2019 08:22

My colleagues have generally been OK, one of them is yet to have children and has been pretty negative about my pregnancy since the day I told her, the other day she had a go at me for rubbing my bump 🙄 I'm nearly 34 weeks, I love feeling her kick and it gets pretty uncomfortable when I've got feet stuck up in my rib cage.....i just ignored her and carried on, it feels a natural thing for me to put my hands on my bump when I feel movement.
I agree with @theatrenerd31 it gets competitive with the pregnancy stories, my other colleague worked up until 3 days before her due date yet I'm finishing a month before mine and I've not been allowed to forget it, not sure why pregnancy has to be a comparison platform and why women in the work place can't support one another

anonnancy · 25/09/2019 09:52

I am sooooo glad It's not just me being overly sensitive / hormonal.

I've had the last 3 days off work as my lower back and pelvis is just pure agony and the thought of sitting at my desk whilst in this pain is just torture, never mind having to deal with the snippy comments on top of that!

Love the smile and wave comments - will deffo need to channel this over the next few weeks.

Luckily I'm on countdown (10 weeks to go - yippee!)

The most annoying comments are:

"Oh you're tired? Wait til baby is here, then you'll know what tired is!" Humph. Arseholes!

Oh yeah and don't get me started on the horror stories lol! I just tune those out! Maybe need to tune out everything else that comes out of their mouths!

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